Jealousy is mental cancer

Jealousy. I have touched on this topic before but feel an unsettling urge to dwell on it a little deeper. Recently, I have been jealous of someone at school, for reasons we can talk about later, but the point is: it turned me into a green-eyed monster!

I despise this feeling. Every bit of it. But I can’t help but envy her. As I analyze this emotion, there is one thing that becomes clear…

We live in the age of envy. Human beings have always felt what Aristotle defined in the fourth century BC as pain at the sight of another’s good fortune, stirred by “those who have what we ought to have”. It is true, I feel innately uncomfortable about this girl’s great accomplishments even though I don’t want to feel this way one bit.

However, I recently came across the Growth Mindset. When we have a growth mindset, we look at the success of others and ask: what would it take for me to attain something similar? How am I going to be able to achieve this too? What would I have to do or learn? We are enabled to think about what we truly want. As a result, we can actually end up using jealousy as a resource, and can always make a plan to get there. This person’s accomplishments have reminded me of the fact that every person is on their own path of growth and success, and made me look a little deeper into constructing my own aims and goals. I may not be a person who gets things right the first time. But over time, I know I try hard to get there.

While I don’t think there is an instant cure for jealousy, I do think we can accept that this disruptive emotion is normal. When we accept, jealousy can uncover areas of our lives that need attention and improvement. Lastly, we may not have everything we want in life. Most of us don’t. But we probably have at least some of what we want, and that should never be disparaged. It is our differences that make us unique after all!

– SaaniaSparkle πŸ§šπŸ»β€β™€οΈ

111 thoughts on “Jealousy is mental cancer

  1. Sound advice. Having the feeling is normal. What we do with the feeling is more important. Using it as an incentive is a true sign of maturity and wisdom. You are influencing many minds with your positive blog posts, Saania. Think about how many others are feeling jealous of your success. I hope they take your advice!

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  2. Very wise Saania . Jealousy is most often about insecurity. Whereas envy is often about wanting what someone else has. Both create negative energy. And it’s good to understand ourselves before responding to these negative emotions.

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  3. Hi, Saania. Jealousy, as you describe it, is part of our sinful nature. Like uncalled for anger, like greed, like lust or pride, it is not something we ever completely rid out of our lives. Each person has their own “personal demons” which plague us from the terrible twos (I want THAT toy that you picked up!) to 70 (my age) or longer if Father gives us the years. But recognizing our sin, we can appeal to God to “forgive our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:8-10)
    Recognizing our thoughts are NOT us is part of that process. See Romans 7 for more on this.
    You are on a good path for addressing it and you are in my prayers that The God Who Is will lead and bless you.
    yours and His,
    c.a.

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  4. SMiLes Young SaaniaSparkle

    THere is Matter And Anti-Matter

    TheRe is Jealousy And Compersion

    TherE is Competition And Cooperation

    Oh The Dualities

    Of Life That
    We May Become
    Fixed on Without Balancing
    Night and Day Unifying TWiLiGHT

    Never Ending in Night And Day Balance All that is
    Yes to Accept LiGHT BRinGinG Emotions With DarK

    SiNKinG Emotions
    Quite the PLiGHT of

    Humanity’s Challenge for
    Inhaling Peace ExhalinG LovE iN Ease

    True THere is Also A Life Long Practice of
    Naked Enough Whole Complete Where All
    That Drives Comes Balancing Gravity of Giving

    Sharing, Caring

    Free With Little Restraint

    As Love Now Comes to Living
    BREaTHE AS All of US at Best

    True At Best We Continue to EVoLVE iNto
    A Loving Child With EYes Full of Awe And Wonder
    For All This Gift Of Life Offering A Hand or Step Up to

    The Rest of
    Nature
    This
    Miracle
    oF All Breath NoW..:)

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  5. Accept the feelings, manage the behaviour – I think that’s about the best we can do! It is funny that I should read your thoughts on envy … just had a conversation with a close friend about him wanting a new digital TV because he watched his friend’s fancy one; when he had previously thought he didn’t need one.

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  6. Have you examined the possibility perhaps Saania that the behaviour you are experiencing is NOT envy but maybe more along the lines of tiring of the so called conventionality of what others perceive as success?

    My advice for you, not that you need it as you already know yourself to be a smart cookie and that is not me being overly complimentary of you, just honest is ignore what you think is envy and simply strive forwards to always be a better version of yourself anyway.

    I don’t believe in the patterning of envy – it is in my world non-existent – l can always do better therefore l have no need to be envious or jealous of someone else. They are them, l am me. I am not better than them and they are not better than me, we are different to each other, we are unique, we are individualistic.

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  7. This is what I have learned personally in my life experience. If I compare myself to others envy can arise. However when I live true to my own goals and my own journey there is nothing to envy of others. My goals are never the same as other peoples.

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  8. Bonjour SAANIA

    Chaque jour, il faut prendre le temps
    De regarder et Γ©couter les autres

    Il faut oublier notre petit “moi”

    La vie est faite de bons moments
    Qui nous arrive Γ  chaque instant

    Remercions la journΓ©e qui vient de s’Γ©couler
    Que celle qui arrive soit encore plus belle

    Profitons de la nature elle est remplie de merveilles,
    de chaque instant prΓ©sent

    Je vous souhaite une belle journΓ©e de bonheur
    Bise Bernard

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  9. Can’t help agreeing to you …… Basically jealousy takes up place when you don’t have a goals and aims and you end up getting jealous from a person who is getting successful day by day, that’s why I always believe in setting my own goals and keeping my brain and heart busy in achieving the set goals.

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  10. Well said. Early in life, I was jealous of couple of people, but one day, one came up to me and said, how did you work through that one problem on our latest test? I explained that early on I had struggled, but that I came to understand that all of my negativity kept me from working the problem. I told them, I just said a short prayer asking for a clear mind to see the problem in a new way and it opened up to me. We became best of friends, though they truly were the better student at that time, but I no longer felt the jealousy.

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  11. We all should be happy with what we have and not should be sad by seeing what others have as each and everyone is facing something and should focus on our dreams buddy stay positive soon you will also achieve your goal too may be more precise than that also

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