More about Happiness…


We define mindfulness as the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to experiences occurring in the present .

Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi studied this state of being and coined the term Flow.

His research suggested that money and luxury doesn’t bring people happiness.

He found that humans are at their happiest when in flow.

Now, what is this flow? 

Being completely absorbed in an activity for its own sake, giving your heightened attention to just one thing.


This is an example of a diagram that Mihaly illustrated in one of his books :

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.

What this shows is that based on the intensity of challenges and skills, If what we do has a high level of challenge and we use our skills at the maximum level, then we enter the state of flow. This is a state of deep happiness, where one  exhibits their creativity, potential and be accomplished, in control with an intrinsic motivation.

Achieving the flow involves certain factors.

Choosing a task. A single task that can be done in solitude. There are endless examples like playing the piano, running, writing, dancing, singing, etc. 

Allowing enough time. Setting aside a lot of time so that the mind can be fully immersed in that one task. 

Setting clear goals. What you are doing and why you are doing it? 

Near balance of a challenge-to-skills ratio. Flows exist near the midline of boredom and anxiety. If the task is dull, you disengage. If it is too hard, fear spikes and we look for a way out. The challenge needs to be slightly greater than our skill so that we stay in the sweet spot.

The flow is important to not get distracted by little things and being able to focus on one task to complete it. It’s a great way to bring peace in our daily lives and living every moment to the fullest with lasting satisfaction.

“To be able to concentrate for a considerable time is essential to difficult achievement.” – Bertrand Russell

Saania Saxena 🙂 


Fearing the future.

Feeling uncertain about the future and muddled up with the present…

I have quite often been there.

Worrying about what is going to happen next…

The prospect of not knowing if something good or bad will happen to me in the near future produces so much stress and discomfort.

Now the philosophical question comes, how to deal with it?

The number one thing that I have realised is that most of us worry ourselves with things that are most likely never going to happen, or basically that our worst fears will rarely ever come true. There are sure some situations that we think could adversely affect our lives, but usually even those aren’t life shattering. So we should ask ourselves what is the worst that could happen. Let’s take an example. Imagine that you are in a class of people. Look at the people around you and figure out what is the worst that’s happened to them. There will be things like this person got low marks in a test, or that person lost an important match. Generally speaking, there won’t be a person who has been kidnapped, or a person who has been diagnosed with a serious disease, or a person with a severe injury. For most of us, most of the time, life’s challenges are actually the small little things, which would hardly be relevant a decade from now. So after figuring all that out, drop the topic!

There would also be times where there is really nothing you can do about the future. I mean you can only do what you can today, and if there is nothing you can do about it, you are better off just going for a jog or taking a nap than worrying about things that are not even in your hands. There is actually a theory known as the circle of concern and the circle of influence. Letting go of things that are outside your circle of influence, and only focusing on things that you can control. For example, you can’t exactly control the traffic in Mumbai! But you can very well control your own behaviour and actions.

So for items you can control (things inside your circle of influence) , turn worries into work. For situations where you know for sure that you probably won’t achieve what you want to, there is no point in fearing about it. And I realised that working on it is the best antidote to worrying about it. Trying to make a better future by working on getting positive outcome for next time. This step takes a lot of courage to accept and do what you can, with what you have, and more importantly, believe you can face your fears to make a better future.

All that said, there will realistically be situations where your brain just refuses to be so logical and you feel that restlessness about what is going to happen. And that is where our dear old friend meditation comes in …

Meditation helps to stabilise us in the face of fear to help us understand it more clearly. With breathing and meditation, we can actually understand ourselves, our emotions and our fears, dig deeper into our thoughts and feelings.

So fear is a choice, you spend time worrying about it or you spend time understanding and getting over them…the choice is ours. 😊

– Saania Saxena

Breathing and Meditation…

From studies to doing exercise, keeping up with friends to attending classes.

In the midst of all this madness, I started wondering…

Ever so often we get terribly caught up in our busy lives. Responsibilities , priorities, conflicts, tiffs… lacking all peace, calm and tranquility. Just so many different thoughts rushing here to there in our little brain, with serenity having no place whatsoever.

I have good days which are full of delight and bliss, nothing going wrong, just everything being in place. Contrarily, I have bad days (or bad times) wherein things just seem out of place, my mind has so many different thoughts zooming here to there and I just lack headspace. Teenagers are perhaps under more pressure today than in the previous generations, with the constant distractions of social media and increased competition.

The effects are for all to see. We laugh less and blow up more. We age faster. We fall sick due to the mind-body linkage. My father and I play this simple game when we go to any restaurant. Just look around and count the number of ‘happy’ faces. Sadly, 8 out of 10 families near us lack any smile and are often busy in their individual gadgets. I mean why come to an expensive restaurant if we still don’t find our contentment?

So what is the way out?

We have to learn to be in the moment, learn to relax, and not stress the small stuff. Enough studies have shown that meditation or yoga can preserve anti – aging parts of cells called telomeres and reduce cellular stress. So this post is going to be on exactly that…

First of all, let’s talk about Breathing…

I’m not going to bore you with any detailed yoga techniques or anything but the main idea here is to be rhythmic and conscious about it. Breathing gives you the strength and power to do what you couldn’t do earlier.

The best link between our mind and our body is our breath. It follows the flow of our thoughts and helps us to live in the present.

You can do this by going out in the nature, and just breathing. Inhaling and exhaling, while only thinking about everything in life that makes you happy right now, forgetting about all the misery the day has been giving to you. To be honest, whenever there is either too much studies, or I just need a break from people I just go outside and cherish nature while breathing it all in. And realistically in that moment there is nothing else I would ever want. So much peace just automatically comes to me, and after that, doing my homework or whatever becomes so much easier. Or when I am about to shout, just watching my breath go in and out suddenly changes the perspective and lets the moment pass without the need to burst out. Even having a jog around does exactly the job.

The only little technique I will suggest is to breathe into your stomach (so it stretches out when we breathe in), and crunch your stomach when you exhale. This way, while exhaling, it is almost as if the entire stress inside is being thrown out.

Then there is Meditation and Yoga…

Meditation is something that relaxes the mind and eliminates negative thoughts, anxiety, and worry. It helps us to control our mind and our life and discover our true nature. Whenever you feel like your mind is filled with too many thoughts, out of your long long day, even setting aside 30 minutes to focus on the brain lets go off any confusing , exasperating thoughts all compressed inside.

Also giving a go at the thing you couldn’t do earlier becomes a lot easier. While meditating, you try not to think about external things, the idea is to focus inwards, perhaps even our breathing. In meditation circles you’ll often hear the term “monkey mind.” The “monkey” refers to how our primate relatives are able to swing from one branch to another with awe-inspiring skill. Similarly, our minds bounces from one idea to another, but rather than inspire awe, this restlessness and lack of calm often fills us with anxiety.

So by meditating your mind, you declutter it, exactly how you clean a closet and it starts to look better, your mind feels a lot cleaner too. And that’s something anyone wishes for, whatever age they might be, which leads to another thing that meditation can be for any age. Meditation leads to a happier and a more sorted life. (And even calms that little monkey down!)

Then there comes good thoughts…

The final piece of advice I’ll give is to have Gratitude. No matter what’s on your mind, let go off all the negative thoughts and be grateful for what you have. I mean, I see homeless people every single day on Mumbai streets who, no doubt have much much bigger problems in their life. And when we shout or get irritated on little things, we often don’t realise that our problems are not even close to theirs. Real serious problems like having a major health issue or death in the family doesn’t really happen to most of us. So I often wonder what right do we have to complain.

Also, learning how to forgive people lets go of some stress. It is said when we forgive, we help ourselves much more than the other person. If you’re really angry at someone for any reason, all those negative thoughts will keep on coming into your head. But simply forgiving that person will chill your mind and theirs too.

Correcting your mindset leads to a positive life and being in that state of bliss, and for many many situations, you can have control over your mind. So breath in…breathe out… and get ready to conquer the world 🙂






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Cherishing my childhood

Childhood for me was simply perfect.

When I recall all the  countless memories, all I can think of is laughter, joy and only happiness.

The age of about 1-7 had so immensly special moments, that whenever I think of them, I just want to go back. 

I never had to worry about anything, all I had to do was scream and I got what I wanted!

I never really had any responsibilities, except for sleeping, eating, laughing and playing, and then repeating that…

I was always around my friends and didn’t really have to worry about losing them… everything was easy.

As I am growing older from child to a teenager, there are obvious changes. Lots of responsibilities, listening to people responsibly, bearing with inherently unbearable situations just to be polite. As for friends, you really have to be careful about their feelings, relationships get more serious, and it’s definitely not as easy as it used to be. Of course then studies also come in place, and basically you have to start taking things a little more seriously to be somewhere in life.

However, None of these changes above are wrong, in fact they are all part of the elixir of growing up. But then, We can get nostalgic. Pragmatically, I do want to grow up and live as an individual, but, on the other hand, in a very childish way, I keep on reminiscing those days. And maybe that’s the way out of the dilemma: ever so often, giving vent to the child inside you. Go out in the rain, play in the park, have a weekend off with your family to a faraway place. Go ahead and live your life, and never let the child inside you leave, so instead of dwelling upon those moments and feeling sad, bring them with you in every possible way… and always keep smiling! 

Even to mention, I am so grateful to have so loving parents who love me exactly the same as they did a few years ago, so that didn’t change at all! 

Dylan Lauren once said “Candy is childhood, the best and bright moments you wish could have lasted forever.”  He could very much be talking about me! 

And to end off with, here’s a typical minion quote: 



-Saania Saxena

How to feel golden and blissful!

These are some points that I think can make anyone a happy, ecstatic and better person living a happier life 🙂

1. Always have a smile on your face. This is one of the best qualities to have in a person. Don’t let little things irritate you. Have optimism. When things go wrong, have hope and smile. Besides, there is always at least one reason to smile. Find it. As the quote goes, everyday might not be good but there is something good in everyday. Also, when you don’t smile and are in a really irritated mood, people around you like your family also get irritated. Rather infect the world with your smile and the world will smile with you. 🙂

2. Don’t waste time fighting/arguing over little things. Before starting a verbal fight with someone, just ask yourself one question – is this even important? The conclusion you will get is that this wasn’t only stupid (for something small, you might end up risking an entire relationship) but you have just wasted your precious time!

3. Be grateful for what you already have. It’s not about how much we have, it’s about how much we enjoy- that makes happiness.
The human nature always tends to want more, want what we do not have, and dwell upon the negatives. Rather try to see what you already have, and make the most of it.

4. Focus on the solution rather than what caused the problem. Everyday we go through both good and bad situations. When you face a bad situation, tell your mind that there is a solution, and then take action to solve the problem. Let’s face the fact that we get into pretty bad situations quite a lot in life! But we all know that somehow most of them end and the problem does get over. There are ways to get out of the hole, so don’t make the hole deeper by thinking that you won’t. All it requires is a little bit of brains and a little bit of patience.

5. Always have an “I can do better” attitude and keep learning from past mistakes. This way your mind looks for ways to do better, and your creative power is turned on. A winning attitude will win for you in every situation. Believe you can succeed and think about success, never failure.
Think doubt and fail.
Think victory and succeed.

6. Think about others, not only yourself. Treat others how you wish to be treated. Empathy, they say, is the gift of great kings (and queens!). Helping others makes us feel good from the inside, and this is often more long-lasting and deeper than momentary pleasure we may get by indulging just ourselves.

7. Ask some people around you what you are good at and what you are bad at (your negatives and your positives). By doing this, you know yourself better, and secondly you realise that you have at least one thing in you that will bring you forward in life. Nobody is perfect but everyone has a few good qualities within them that sometimes they don’t realise.
Realise that quality. Develop your qualities and talents to become a winner. Use that quality and let it shine

8. Take responsibilities  – like studying ahead of class, studying before doing other things like being on gadgets, overall be a responsible person. Also, on your health and fitness, balancing calories in and out. This too makes you feel better about yourself.

9. Have a hobby.
Wether it’s singing, wether it’s dancing, or wether it’s writing, have one thing, that could be anything, that you truly enjoy doing besides studies. Focus on it for at least one hour a day.

10. Have people around who truly love you.
Wether it’s your family or an extremely close friend, have a few people who love you, no matter what. They will always build you up when you’re about to break down. You will always find happiness there.

And here’s a bonus – Just look good! When you look good (not necessarily wearing expensive clothes and putting makeup – literally not needed!, just being fresh and tidy and feeling your best), you feel better about yourself. So dress up, chin up, smile and go ahead! You only have one life to live 🙂

These are some points I gathered up that, to me, feel like can make our little stay on Planet Earth a little better.
To be honest, I lack a few of these qualities myself, but this is all about learning and seeing how we can all becoms better individuals.
So live, learn, and enjoy!

– Saania Saxena



Book Review – The Power Of Habit


Have you ever wondered why and how certain habits occur ?
Well, I recently read a book called The Power Of Habit by Charles Duhigg that explores the actual science behind habit creation and even some habits linked to businesses.

In this book, Charle take us through so many fascinating scientific discoveries that explain habits.

For example, in the first chapter he writes about an old man named Eugene Pauly who lost his memory and couldn’t even remember what day of the week it was, or identify his grandchildren, etc. Eugene’s wife Beverly took him for walks every day to make sure he remained fit and healthy until one day, all of a sudden Eugene heads out the door all by himself and takes a walk around. Very surprisingly enough, he returns in exactly 15 minutes back to his house. He starts doing this every single day. However, When the doctors ask him to roughly draw a map of his estate and where his house was, he couldn’t recall a thing! As he lost his memory.

The conclusion scientists and MIT researchers found out was that towards the centre of our skull, there is a lump of tissue called the basal ganglia. And this tissue stores habits even if the rest of our brain doesn’t work which explains why Eugene started to walk every single day all by himself (it became a habit) and get home on time but couldn’t exactly figure out where his house was ( didn’t have the memory). Habits form and operate entirely separate from the part of our brain responsible for memory.

Charles also talks about “chunking”. Our brain converts a sequence of actions into an automatic routine (like Eugene walked everyday until it eventually became a daily habit) and that’s the root of how habits form. There are hundreds and hundreds of behavioural chunks that we rely on every single day. For example, putting toothpaste on our brush before sticking it in our mouth or wearing clothes that could require several separate actions but we do it everyday without thinking twice.

Putting it altogether, there is something known as the Habit Loop which consists of 3 steps:

Cue : a trigger that tells our brain to go into automatic mode and what habit to use
Routine : can be physical, mental, or emotional
Reward : helps the brain know if the particular loop is worth remembering for the future

Eventually this loop becomes more and more automatic. The cue and reward intertwine and a habit is born. It is easier to visualise the loop. Take for example when a phone buzzes with a new email or message, the brain starts anticipating the momentary distraction that opening an email provides.image.jpeg

This is what a habit loop looks like .

Another chapter of the book is called “The Craving Brain – how to create new habits”
It might seem surprising to some of you but in early 20th America, hardly anyone brushed their teeth.
They were left so unhygienic and so gross! Not until Claude Hopkins, a marketing genius was convinced by his friend to popularise toothpaste and turn it into a daily habit. Claude Hopkins was known for turning unknown products into daily used household items. He also worked in advertising Quaker Oats. (The cereal)
He was able to convince America that it provided 24 hour energy – but only if you ate a bowl every day
(So eventually people made it a habit to eat quaker oats cereal each morning to gain energy for the day !)
Moving on… Claude Hopkins thought of a cue to turn toothpaste into a national habit. His toothpaste was Pepsodent. Unlike other pastes at the time, Pepsodent contained citric acids and mint oils. Not only these sounded fresh but it made people have this cool tingling sensation on the tongue and gums. Very interestingly enough, sales of Pepsodent exploded. Pepsodent created a craving.
When people forgot to brush their teeth with Pepsodent, they missed out on the tingling effect. If it wasn’t there, their teeth didn’t feel clean. Once people craved that cool tingling sensation, seeing the result of clean shiny teeth, brushing became a habit. And, within a decade, toothpaste usage expanded from 7% of the population to 65%. So actually people started brushing with Pepsodent mainly because of the tingling effect that ensured them their teeth would be clean. So Marketing genius Claude Hopkins’ marketing plan did work and created brushing into a daily habit. Now brushing has turned into a worldwide habit and after Hopkins, many toothpaste companies began using citric oils and minty freshness for the tingle effect.
Cravings are what drive habits, and figuring out how to spark a craving makes creating a new habit easier, like the crave for the tingle creates a habit of brushing.image

Hopkins’ habit loop for Pepsodent…
How brushing became a habit

Then there is a chapter called the ” Golden rule of habit change

Tony Dungy was a footballer who totally changed the game of American football for the first time.
He was the head coach of the Tampa Bay Buccaneers – initially one of the worst teams in the national football league! But he then came up with a new coaching approach.
Instead of players overthinking and spending so much time on their next move, Tony did everything to get his team to stop thinking and react quickly based on habit instead. Tony knew that habits can’t usually be overcome but instead could be changed if a new routine is inserted to the habit loop with the same cue and same reward. He trained his team to automatically link cues they already knew to different on-field routines, ones that involved less complexity, fewer choices, lesser thinking and rather more subconscious reactions. Fortunately, Tony’s approach lead to the Buccaneers being championship contenders and he saved his team successfully.

The most successful habit change is the 12 step program of Alcoholics Anonymous.
The first key is that AA inserts a new routine into the same cue and reward by identifying what need the alcohol is fulfilling and providing a similar type of relief through the AA group. If you think about it people drink alcohol for anxiety relief, relaxation, escape, or to get a stress free mind. But AA forced you to create new routines for what to do each night instead of drinking harmful alcohol each night.
Meaning, creating a new routine with the same cue and reward. The cue would be feeling stressed out for example, the reward would be having a stress free mind, resulting in a routine of drinking every night. AA kept the same cue and reward and added a new routine- which was that you could relax and talk through your anxieties at the meetings, (talk to people which are equivalent to drinking excess or figure out a different routine that will satisfy the cravings filled by drinking alcohol).

However, drinking or smoking is a terrible addiction spread worldwide, so this alone wasn’t sufficient.
There is another element to prevent such things and that is belief. Belief is a thing and skill that makes habit change possible. And if a community or a group of people believe that it’s wrong, habits could possibly change, despite the fact that even today it is extremely difficult.

The conclusion Charles tried to explain was, if we keep the same cue and reward, a new routine can be inserted to the habit loop, just like Tony did with his football team and AA did with alcohol addicted people. Also, we know that change can happen with bad habits, smokers can quit smoking, drinkers can quit drinking access but what is needed is belief that it can happen and that too by a community or a group of people.

Another example from me, when teenagers check their phones every now and then and eventually, it turns into a habit 🙄
Cue: a phone ting (snapchat, Instagram ;-))
Reward: Satisfaction
Resulting in a routine : Checking phone every now and then

You can change this bad habit. When your phone chimes, instantly keep it somewhere else, or somewhere where it’s unreachable, you wont get the craving anymore.
Not that you can’t check your phone at all, of course you should, just don’t create it into a habit.
Same goes to things like biting nails (not to mention I actually do it quite often !). In Fact, there was a girl named Mandy. Her biting habit got so severe that her fingers actually used to bleed but she still did it because it gave her satisfaction. She then met a phycologist who studied habit reversal training. She managed to solve Mandy’s issue. Whenever Mandy felt the urge or the crave to bite her nails, the phycologist asked her to put her hand in the pocket, making it impossible to put her fingers in her mouth. As for the reward, she could decide what she wanted, for example a manicure!
The cue and reward stayed the same, it’s the bad behaviour that changed .

Then there is a chapter called “Starbucks and the habit of success- when willpower becomes automatic”
Starbucks is a coffee shop that operates above 27,000 locations worldwide! So many people love Starbucks across the world but do you know the actual history behind it?

It is scientifically proven that willpower is an essential ingredient for success.
This has been proven through a number of experiments, with one, including the marshmallow experiment which involved children and marshmallows. Kids with less will power to eat the marshmallow later didn’t achieve good grades or SAT scores, and kids with a high will power achieved better grades later on, crazy to believe but it’s a proven fact.. In Fact there is a book based on this experiment called ” The Marshmallow Test”.
Anyway, willpower is known to help you in other areas of life and read on about how Starbucks’ success was achieved:

Starbucks’ business model was based on giving fantastic customer service. The solution, Starbucks discovered, was to turn self discipline and willpower into an organisational habit. The managers noticed that what was happening was that employees and workers were failing when they reached against inflection points ( like facing angry customers ). What they realised was they needed habits to muster self discipline. The workers needed clear instructions about how to deal with the inflection points: a routine for employees to follow when their willpower muscles went limp. Starbucks gave their employees willpower habit loops and explained how to react to angry customers.
Then Starbucks came up with the LATTE method! To listen to the customer, acknowledge their complaint, take action by solving the issue, thank them, and explain why the problem occurred. They gave them many other learnings as well as a lot of training classes to build self regulation and willpower. Throughout the classes they were given plans to overcome inflection points, they then practiced the plans, until it became an automatic habit.

That is how willpower became a habit. By choosing a certain behaviour ahead of time, and then following that routine when an inflection point arrives. When workers studied the latte method, they decided ahead of time how to react to a cue – (a painful muscle or angry customer). When the cue arrived, a routine occurred, with a reward of happy customers. .image.jpeg

The employee training and customer service Starbucks gave the workers made Starbucks into one of the most successful companies in the world

Starbucks also gave their workers authority and self control.
It was also proven that it gave them a lot of self control and worked more effectively with fewer mistakes. They brought self discipline into their job.
“When people just follow orders willpower just becomes more difficult”
Starbucks’ excellent training led to workers having will power and self regulation, leading to customer satisfaction, and Starbucks successfully hit their goal.

There is also a chapter that goes into the detail of how Target achieved success. ( the second largest upscale discount retailer that provides high quality, on – trend merchandise )

Basically Target collects individualised shopping data for each customer using credit, shopping cards, etc, . They notice your age, ethnicity, location, status and so on.
Target looks at individual quirks of each customer using data or simply identifies each customer’s buying habits. A huge thing that adds to the marketing success in target is if a customer goes through a major event in his or her life, for example a child is going to be born. Target’s staff notices that the buying habits of the customer changes. So these type of companies are really good at identifying what goes on with the customer’s life!

Once they notice the buying habit changes, they send coupons or emails with discount for example with the specific items they need. It didn’t take long though, for target to realise that people would mind if they received coupons filled with baby products, sometimes even before they’ve told their families that they are pregnant and would surely think that target stalks them!

So now, when target predicts a customer is pregnant, for example ( there are many more examples ), they will send coupons or emails for baby products intentionally sandwiched between unrelated ads for beer, jewellery or other products too.

I think that’s pretty smart 🙂

So Charles gives us a formula to follow, now that we know our habits and can shape them accordingly in our will after reading this book :

1. Identify the routine

2. Experiment with rewards

3. Isolate the cue

4. Have a plan

Once you understand how a particular habit operates, once you diagnose the cue, the routine and the reward, you gain power over it.”

Why should you read this book ? You can certainly understand and identify your own personal habits, and think about wether you want to reshape or build onto them 🙂

– Saania Saxena
















Conquering and learning

Life is all about reaching your goals and trying your best to achieve them, as I talked about on my 16th post -“Purpose of Life”. However, reaching any goal takes effort and hard work and you will make mistakes along the way, that behave like obstacles between your path to success. With these obstacles, people often stop and give up, there is this fear that holds them back from trying. However, it is quite cliché but it’s important to learn from your mistakes – and get over those obstacles. They give you an opportunity- Firstly accept the mistake, learn from the mistake and then try again, and it’s totally up to you if you want to ignore it or if you want to open the door to hope in getting even better. A goal can be as small as getting an A in a class test or as big as getting into one of the best universities across the world or even bigger, becoming the CEO of a huge company. Any goal, big or small, require hard work and there will always be obstacles before achieving them – (after all, difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations! ). When you make mistakes and learn to learn from them, you actually can figure out what works and what doesn’t which is such a great opportunity to bring you further and grow. On the other hand, if a person makes no mistakes at all (which is impossible because no one is perfect and you don’t go forward in life without learning! ), they are not experiencing and not taking a step forward in accomplishing a goal…learning to conquer your mistakes gets you a step closer to success. Let us take a really simple real life example (after all, philosophy is all about discovering things around us and relating it to real life).. So, for example, my sister once sang in front of a crowd in this huge party held at our house. It was one of the first times she actually sang in front of many people. However, It didn’t really go as well as she thought it would. (By the way she really enjoys singing and dreams of becoming a rockstar one day!). Now obviously it must not have felt great at all! But she had two options- never singing again in front of a crowd or figuring out what made her not sing to the best of abilities. Fortunately she realised that singing is one of the only things that interests her (turns out the crowd was the thing that made her nervous, meaning her goal was to sing in front of people without being nervous) ,and then she obviously sang more in front of people (after all, life begins at the end of your comfort zone!) and now, in fact a few weeks ago, she sang in a wedding and honestly it was the best she has ever sang before without getting really nervous . (Goal almost achieved !!)
This example shows to achieve a goal, you have to firstly realise the mistake or what went wrong and take ownership of it  ,overcome the fear of failing at something when you make the mistake, learn from it and try again. When mistakes come along the way, you shouldn’t shy away from it – in fact because of all the hardwork and strugles you will do better in the future. (After all, Alice did have to fall before entering Wonderland!).
Also, every goal achieved is a success in itself, regardless if it’s a big goal or a small goal, the point is that it’s something you couldn’t do earlier and could do now. As long as your goal sounds reasonable to you and you are commited to fulfil it, don’t let any obstacles hold you back from going on further and trying harder.

So let me end with a brilliant quote said by the brilliant Lilly Singh (Superwoman!!) :
“On the path to success, fear and discomfort are only speed bumps. Don’t make them dead ends.”

-Saania 😊