During my first few days at the University of Washington, I remember meeting so many new people. I vividly recall meeting a group of international students from different corners of the globe at a get-to-know-each-other board games event. At first, we were all hesitant and unsure about how to interact with one another given our diverse backgrounds. However, as we played a whimsical round of Scrabble and chit-chatted for a bit, at the end of the day we all wanted to blend in to feel appreciated and loved. So, what does this tell us about human nature?
Getting a little bit in touch with my roots, here’s the most beautiful thing I see in Hinduism: Namaste! This one gracious word reminds us that:
“We are the same. And we are whole.”
As a little girl, I remember watching people join their hands close together with a gentle bow and wondering what this meant. Namaste recognizes that “the Divine within me bows to the same Divine within you.” By doing this, we see a god, a diety, an honour inside every person. Even with people who we barely even know, we create a sense of oneness. So incredibly beautiful, isn’t it?
Even from my Vinyasa Yoga classes, my instructor told me about the Bhagavad Gita, one of yoga’s classic texts. Here we are repeatedly reminded that a true yogi sees everything and everyone as equal.
If lived to its fullest intent, the meaning of Namaste can help us drop all the walls that superficially separate us and allow us to feel the hunger, the pain, the suffering of others, and also share in the joy of others. By recognizing the divine spark within each person, we can cultivate a sense of respect for all human beings regardless of their background, culture, or beliefs.
So for some key takeaways, why don’t we try the following?
Embrace what others can teach us. We all have something to share, and we all have something to learn.
Respect everyone we meet. All human beings: drivers, workers, teachers, elders, strangers, regardless of their background, culture, or beliefs.
Express gratitude. Appreciate and value the people and experiences that bring joy and meaning to our lives.
Mindfulness. Being fully present and attentive to what others sayto us.
In high school I joined an Environmental Club, The Tree Huggers. Through beach clean-ups and saving energy, I found myself becoming eco-friendly. However, a nagging sense of apprehension creeped up on me. I was developing a growing anxiety about the possibility of my parents or friends catching me in a moment of environmental disregard. This eagerness to act on every instance of waste production was driven by a desire to be consistent. And consistency becomes even more pronounced when public image comes in. Why so? Perhaps because nobody likes being known as wishy-washy, we all want to hold a reputation of honesty and steadfastness. I felt no different.
Consistency extends beyond our individual lives and finds its place in the dynamic realms of Marketing, Advertising, and Persuasion. But what provides the “click” that activates the need for being consistent? Social psychologists think “commitment” is the answer. Toy companies like Hasbro, during festive seasons like Christmas, experience a boom in sales. But problems arise when sales go into a slump for the next few months after. How is this issue tackled? Step 1: Kids make a Christmas wish-list that parents promise to fulfill (I’ve totally asked mine to buy me Barbie’s Dream DollHouse!). Step 2: Toy companies undersupply the store with these popular toys during Christmas. Step 3: Parents buy substitute toys. Step 4: After Christmas, companies run ads for the not-bought-yet popular toys kids initially wanted. Step 5: Kids go whining to their parents, “you promised, you promised!”. Step 6: Parents go trudging off to the store to live dutifully to their words. Voila! The toys start selling like hotcakes (After all, shouldn’t we teach our kids that promises are made to be lived up to? :p)
Charitable organizations and NGOs similarly survive on donations. How do leaders convince people to open up their wallets and donate? They use the foot-in-door technique that Yeung, a British psychologist and author, also speaks about: getting people to say “yes” to a small request before using the power of consistency and making a bigger one. For instance, if we sign a petition in helping prevent birth defects, after making this small commitment, we are more likely to donate for the cause later.
This power of consistency is especially evident when it comes to public commitment. Imagine you’re at a New Year’s Eve party, sipping on champagne, surrounded by friends and family. As the clock strikes 12, you make a resolution to hit the gym more often. By sharing your resolution with others, you’re motivated to stay on track. In fact, 24 Hour Fitness encouraged their members to publicly commit and become part of their followers (Who doesn’t want to be that inspiring fitness fanatic ?!). This led to a massive 300 thousand new members.
Marketing minds recognize the power of consistency all too well. They generate sales by tapping into this special psychological trait that lies within us by starting with small, incremental steps and later moving forward to bigger steps, and by incentivising us to stick to our public commitments. Let’s face it, for reputation’s sake, we do what we gotta do!
This Spring break, my family and I visited Latin America, a vibrant mosaic of cultures, colors, and contrasts. Our 4 stops were Panama, Cuba, Dominican Republic, and Jamaica. I even got to practice a lot of my Spanish! Here are some pictures to take you along my journey…
In Panama we visited 1 of the 7 “modern” wonders of the world – the Panama Canal. Before the canal was built, ships had to travel around the southern tip of South America, adding unwanted miles to their journey. This canal shortens the journey between the Pacific and Atlantic ocean by 1000s of nautical miles. There are three locks systems: the Miraflores Locks, Pedro Miguel Locks, and Gatun Locks, each lifting ships up to 85 feet above sea level. It is no wonder the Panama Canal is such a vital source of revenue for its country!
The Miraflores Lock
Can’t forget the scrumptious South American treat – EMPANADAS!!
2 goat meat (cabra) and 2 cheese (queso)
In Cuba, we visited its capital, Havana (ha-ba-na). A quaint, old town but with such lovely people (and old fashioned cigars!). One of the first things I noticed as I entered was the colorful vintage cars that lined the streets. Here’s why: By 1919, Cuba was the largest Latin American importer of US cars and parts. However, in 1959, old friends became foes, and there was an embargo placed on all US imports. This meant that no American cars could be exported to the island anymore. So now, tourists get to ride on these beautiful babies!:
In Santo Domingo, we visited the beaches with pristine, crystal-clear waters. My favourite thing though about the country, DR, is its flag. Right in the middle of the flag we see a display of John 8, 32 from the Bible: “And the truth shall make you free.” (In Spanish, “la verdad os hará libres”). Indeed, even in our day to day lives, there is something liberating when we speak the truth and release the burden of secrets! When it comes to food, the daily lunch for Dominicans consists of rice, beans, and meat.
In Jamaica, we chased the sun in the paradisiacal island of Montego Bay. Here I rode on a horse named Zogi along the beach, and went swimming in the Luminous Lagoon. The natural blue glow of this lagoon is formed from small microorganisms that emit a flash of light when the water is disturbed. It’s like northern lights but in the ocean! Truly magical.
On a day weighed down by doom and gloom, I recall discovering these lines: “I don’t think of all the misery, but of the beauty that still remains.” It’s far too easy for me to focus on the darkness and challenges I face. Then I read a quote like this one and have to pause for a moment because the author was facing a kind of darkness I have never known. These words are inscribed in The Diary of Anne Frank. It is a humbling realization, given they come from a young girl grappling with the weight of the world on her innocent shoulders. Where was her mind in that darkness? It was pointing out to the light. The Diary of Anne Frank, along with many other books, movies, and stories, make us feel something. What is it that they inspire within us? Emotion.
In his book, Contagious: why things catch on, Wharton marketing professor Jonah Berger shares 6 ingredients that create viral content. One ingredient is Emotion. It’s a sentiment that is both astute and simple – “when we care, we share.” Back in 2009, nobody from the field of visual arts ever worked for Google. The company was for techies, not designers. But when Google was interviewing graphic designers, Anthony Cafaro, a graduate from the New York school of visual arts, jumped at the opportunity. Cafaro aced the interview and got in. However, as he worked with his colleagues, he realized that everyone there valued analytics, not emotion. One day, Google was doing a project to highlight the functionality of its search engine, like finding flights, language translations, etc. A demo would showcase how Google’s search engine worked, but Cafaro felt something was missing – emotion. So, he created the “Parisian Love” campaign. This campaign told a budding love story using Google searches as a man types in the search bar, “study abroad Paris”. He lands and then searches “cafés near Louvre”. We hear a female laughing in the background as he hits his next entry, “how to impress a French girl?” followed by “translate ‘tu es mignonne’” which is French for ‘you are very cute!’. Music built as the search engine features were demonstrated as well as the plot of this love story unfolded. Everyone loved it. By focusing on love, a feeling that fills all our hearts with warm and cozy tingles, Google with this mastertouch turned a normal ad into a viral hit.
Think also about how certain science articles chronicle innovation and discoveries that evoke a particular emotion within us. I have definitely felt a sense of wonder and inspiration after learning an interesting fact [How cool is it that carrots were originally purple but were selectively bred to be orange in honor of the Dutch royal family?!]. I’m left feeling humbled, amazed, and with a compelling urge to go share it with my friends (don’t we all wish to sound smart ;p). This emotion? Awe. Similarly, Cafaro’s creative idea for Google’s campaign wasn’t only powerful, it was awe-inspiring.
Berger also speaks of Physiological arousal. According to him, there is a relationship between the type of emotion (positive, negative) and the level of arousal (high/low). Awe, excitement, humor as well as anger and anxiety are emotions that evoke high levels of arousal, whereas contentment and sadness are emotions that evoke low levels of arousal, leaving people to do nothing. Hence, understanding arousal can help us drive viral content, by focusing less on information (features and benefits), but rather on how we can devise emotional hooks to influence how people think, feel, and react to our message.
I can think about the times I wish to buy something. Makeup, books, gadgets, or the Moroccan shampoo + conditioner set with its enchanting aroma (oh, the immense love I have for my hair!). Most of the time, I don’t buy these things for logical reasons alone. I buy them for emotional reasons. Smart marketing minds maneuver their consumers by recognising the fact that emotion moves people and drives them to action. So, want people to care and share? Let’s use emotion to kindle the fire!
Haven’t we often had trouble paying attention to our parents at dinner because we’re too busy checking our phones to see if that one person texted us back? Mom might be trying to have a conversation with us, asking about how our day went. All we’re giving is cold, short answers. We’re there, but we’re not there. I know and admit with plentiful guilt that this has been me.
Love, in a unique sense, is one’s connection to the world. An experience that we create rather than something we have to wait for to be given. But the truth is, we ever so often take little moments of love for granted. I often think about, if I ever reached a point where I only had the chance to experience one more day of life, what would I want? The answer always comes back to this. I would want to re-see and feel again, all the love and beauty that I take for granted. The music that gives me goosebumps. The feeling of putting on a warm pair of fuzzy socks in a wintery morning. The softness of the hands of a loved one. The cozy feeling of newly washed linens against my skin. The chirpings of the birds that wake me up every school morning, or the warmth on my face from the sun on a frosty day, giving the rare moment of apricity. These are the moments, the moments that connect me to the world and make me appreciate my special little place within it.
I recently took an Architecture course to try something new and different. It sounds odd at first glance, but even a rudimentary understanding of architecture and buildings gave me a deeper appreciation for them. When I stumbled across the Amazon Spheres located in Seattle, Washington, I wondered why it houses 40,000 plants from 50 different countries. Architects at NBBJ chose to build these Spheres over the last seven years with the goal of inspiring Amazon’s employees to generate new ideas through an immersion into the nature. Every piece of architecture we see on a daily basis similarly took significant amount of time and energy to build. When we connect with it, try to understand it, that’s what generates love!
“A meaningful life is built on many different forms of love”, writes Natasha in her book Conversations on Love. So there is no need to yearn fretfully for love and wonder why it isn’t here — it is right here when we start to view our world differently by recognising, love, it’s all around us…
An ancient parable remains close to my heart: a Jewish man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho when he was attacked by robbers, leaving him half dead. A priest and a Levite saw him, yet passed by. But a Samaritan came to where the man was and bandaged his wounds. Then, put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn, and cared for him until he healed. Today, this beautiful story is the etymology of the phrase “good Samaritan”, a person who is a “neighbor” not just to people of their own group (at the time, intense hostility existed between Samaritans and Jews). We understand it, remember it, and retell it later because the idea of love, compassion, and a man crossing a tremendous social gulf to help a wounded man sticks with us. The story may even change behaviors as we remember to help others in times of distress. Legendary stories like these encapsulate: stories hold a miraculous power.
Made to Stick is a book I read written by two brothers, Chip Heath, a professor of organizational behavior at Stanford University and Dan Heath, a senior member for Social Entrepreneurship at Duke University. The brothers explain, “stories are told and retold because they contain wisdom. A story’s power is that it provides simulation (knowledge about how to act) and inspiration (motivation to act).” Being a health and fitness freak, the key example highlighted in the book sticks with me: the Jared Campaign for Subway. In the late 1990’s, Subway launched a campaign to tout the healthiness of a new line of sandwiches. This campaign was based on the statistics: seven subs under six grams of fat. Sounds pretty good yeah? But this 7 under 6 idea didn’t stick quite like Subway’s next campaign which focused on the remarkable story of Jared. Jared, a college student, was seriously overweight, ballooning up to 425 pounds. But by spring, Jared decided to slim down. He had his first Turkey sub. He eventually developed his own all-Subway diet: a foot long veggie sub for lunch and a six-inch turkey sub for dinner. After 3 months of this diet, he dropped almost 100 pounds. Coad and Barry, president of the advertising agency Hal Riney, found out about this and thought, “we’ve got a great story on our hands”. They decided to run an advertisement for regional Subway franchisees. The idea blew the internet. Unlike the 7 under 6 idea which only held logos, the tale of Jared holds a simulation value as well as pathos, the emotional resonance. Perhaps we’re not all looking to lose weight. But ‘fighting big odds and prevailing through perseverance’ rings inspiration to any ear. And inspiration drives action.
That being said, not all stories stick. Chip and Dan hence came up with 3 types of plots if our goal is to inspire others through stories. First, the challenge plot. We all recognize this one, where a protagonist overcomes a formidable challenge yet succeeds in the end, attracting triumph and glory. As someone obsessed with Disney princesses, my personal favorite, much similar to the Jared story, is the story of Princess Mulan. Mulan is a loving and determined daughter. Desperate to prevent her ailing father from being drafted by the army, she disguises herself as a man and enlists in his place. In the army, she must try to hide her true identity while battling the enemies. With determination and bravery, Mulan ends up saving both her father and her country. Seems like the quintessential challenge plot, right?
Second, the connection plot. The story of the good Samaritan fits well here. We live in a world where we are constantly surrounded by people. Connection plots are all about the relationships we make with these people.In the business world, connection plots create an emotional connection between a company, its products and its customers. Always is a company that produces period products. As a girl, watching the advert from Always titled ‘Like a girl’ made me feel proud being one. It showed a group of teens acting out certain actions such as “Can you throw like a girl?” or “Can you fight like a girl?”. Girls were illustrated as soft, wimpy, and sloppy. The ad then contrasted this by asking the same questions to little girls. These girls this time ran, threw, and fought normally. “When did doing something “like a girl” become an insult?” was the food for thought. All over the nation, this advert empowered women. Our power was unleashed!
Third, the creativity plot. As a frequent flyer, I often observe how on-flight safety instructions are given little attention by passengers. One of my favorite examples of the creativity plot is hence the one about flight attendant, Karen Wood. Karen wanted to make people care about the safety instructions on-flight. “And as the song goes, there may be fifty ways to leave your lover, but there are only six ways to leave this aircraft:…”, she spoke. It didn’t take long for passengers to tune into her comic spiel. We can’t demand attention, we must attract it. Creativity plots help us achieve this as we experiment with new approaches (within certain regulations, of course).
The power of storytelling fascinates me. Thousands of years ago, myths and legends were told through oral cultures. These developed profound ways of communicating so that cultures were kept alive. Think also about the way we get lost in fictitious worlds from books and movies. I often marvel over how the horror movies I watch haunt me in my sleep, or how tales of adventure like Princess Moana’s venture into the sea drive me to go set out on my own, or how romance novels set expectations in love I’d possibly carry with me throughout my life. In the marketing world, too, it is through storytelling that the audience is able to connect, engage, and most importantly remember messages. As Steve Jobs exceptionally summarizes, “the most powerful person in the world is the storyteller who sets the vision, values and agenda of an entire generation that is to come.”
I was once taking a stroll around my campus in the subnivean city of Seattle. On the floor, I suddenly spotted before me a petite sparrow. She was seemingly in pain and unable to fly. Around me were a good number of collegers streaming by. Several passed by and went on with their day without paying attention. The few who noticed the struggling bird or the bothered look on my face checked the social evidence around them and, seeing no one reacting with any real concern, walked on convinced that nothing is wrong. A little while later, for no other reason other than my intense love for nature and its animals, I stopped two of my friends to come and stand next to me and the bird. To my surprise, passerbys started to join us after absorbing the scene: a snow coated street, a helpless little bird, three people with troubled looks on their faces. Together we rescued the sparrow, putting her in an area of safety.
I recently read the book Influence, a New York Times Best-Seller, by Robert Cialdini on the Psychology of Persuasion. Robert, a professor of Psychology and Marketing at Arizona State University, explains, “when we are unsure, we are more likely to use others’ actions to decide how to behave”. Here comes the power of “the many”. A chain of restaurants in Beijing partnered with researchers as owners wanted to see if they could get customers to purchase a specific item in the menu. As it turned out, a simple label did the trick that read: “most popular”. Sales of this dish jumped by an average of 13 to 20%. Entire phobias can be gotten rid of in a similar fashion. Albert Bandura, a Canadian psychologist, provided live demonstrations of children interacting with dogs to children who had a fear of dogs. 67% of them were willing to climb into a playpen with a dog after watching the demonstration. Both examples involved achieving targets through a persuasive practice, a potent lever of influence: the social proof. Moreover, all of us have a natural desire to fit in with others. But often, we are unsure of ourselves. So, we determine the behaviours of others as more correct. During my first few days of Freshman year at the University of Washington, I was desperate to get along with other students but was unsure if I would blend in the unfamiliar American environment. I then naively assumed that everyone else had a better grasp of what they were doing. However, majority of the students must have felt equally unsure about things as me. Social proof works in a similar way where we take clues from the ones around us as to what counts as acceptable, correct, better behavior (perhaps this could also rationalize why I was hesitant to help the bird alone).
So how does this social proof manifest itself in real life?
Firstly, popularity is effective in the business world. Cavett Robert, a sales consultant, captured this principle beautifully: “since 95% of us are imitators and only 5% are initiators, we are persuaded more by the action of others rather than any proof we can offer.” Smart advertisers and marketing minds are well aware of this tendency so they use the leverage of social proof to better connect with their target audience. For instance, I looked at consumer reviews before purchasing my trendy Dyson airwrap, where I judged the opinions of ordinary people ‘like me’ as more trustworthy than the Dyson company. But there are PR companies who specialize in ensuring “great” consumer reviews on popular sites, even paying some of these reviewers. So, we as consumers can be manipulated by these shrewd, unscrupulous advertisers. We are influenced to make decisions we would never have made otherwise (there were other less expensive hair stylers than the Dyson airwrap!).
Secondly, a harsh reality in our world is that the more people do something, the more acceptable that thing becomes. So social proof might be problematic since groups of people can reach suboptimal or even outright wrong conclusions, the classical herd behavior. But “everyone’s doing it, so it must be okay” mindset is highly debatable as American writer Walter Lippmann fantastically summarized, “Where all think alike, no one thinks very much.”
Also, a very happy New Year and Happy Holidays. Here’s to a blissful 2023!
“Scratch the soil anywhere in Cyprus and you’ll find traces of its magnificent past”.
This weekend, my family and I flew to Cyprus for my mom’s birthday get-away, a mystical paradise complete with stunning beaches, refreshing breeze, and mouth-watering food.
Cyprus enjoys almost 320 days of sunshine a year. Me coming from Seattle and my twin sister coming from London, we thoroughly enjoyed absorbing all the Vitamin D! 8 months of sunny weather sounds like a dream to me after the gloomy Seattle wintery rains.
The Amathus Ruins make up an archeological site with a history stretching back more than 3,000 years. Amathus was the most royal kingdom in Cyprus which was later destroyed due to the Arab invasion, but here we can see the crumbling remains of the agora (marketplace), a temple complex, and the city’s water system. Interestingly enough, the world’s largest stone vase was found in this site. It is now displayed in Le Louvre museum, Paris.
Cyprus is also home to the oldest manufactured wine in the world. The Guinness World Record claims that this wine traces its origins back to 2000 B.C. Fun Fact: in 1223, King Philip of France named it ‘The Apostle of Wines’, and it suddenly gained popularity all around Europe as ‘Commandaria’, the region of its production. I didn’t try it of course, but my parents did. It’s an amber coloured sweet dessert wine.
Cats of Cyprus
The island of Cyprus is said to have more cats than people! It is no wonder that every restaurant we went to had cats gawking at us while we ate our food. Legend has it that St. Helena brought an entire shipload of cats to the island as a solution to its serious snake problem. The snakes were supposed to be consumed by these cats. However, it appears that they loved Cyprus so much that they didn’t want to leave!
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Traditional Cypriot Meat Platter Beach Day 🏖️ Marina Area
As always, voyaging the world helps me experience the unfamiliar and acquire new knowledge. The enchanting island of Cyprus had so much to offer, 100% recommended place to visit!
This is me most of the time: “I want something, I want it NOW!”. Delayed gratification, however, is our ability to resist temptations of instant pleasure. And for me, it’s not easy…
A 1960’s Stanford professor named Walter conducted the Marshmallow Experiment. A group of children were brought to a room. In the room, one white fluffy marshmallow stared at each of them. At this point, the researcher told each child that he was going to leave the room. If the child didn’t eat the marshmallow while he was away, they would be rewarded with a second marshmallow. However, if the child did eat the marshmallow, they wouldn’t get a second. These children were studied years later and were found to be more focussed, disciplined, and happier in a number of different areas of life if they had chosen not to eat the first marshmallow. These results shocked everyone. Delayed gratification is exactly this: resisting the temptation of an immediate reward in anticipation that there will be a greater reward later.
One of the most relevant examples in my own life has been around giving in to urges when it comes to food. I remember as a tween I couldn’t resist the sugary glazed iced cookies sitting on the top shelf of my pantry. It would never be long before I found myself binge eating. However, delayed gratification is when instead of feeling the satisfaction of consuming delicious foods by giving into intense cravings, we get to feel the gratification of being healthier in the long term. Since the past few months, I’ve significantly cut down on my sugar and carbs. I can genuinely attest that my body has never felt better.
Another example from my personal experiences is when it comes to physical pleasure. When I scroll through Shien or Amazon and spot a pink comfy cotton top with the perfect mix of cute and elegant, in my mind I’m telling myself: Saania, you NEED to buy this! But living the student life has made me realise that money doesn’t grow on trees and I’ll be way better off saving.
The final example I can think of is when someone speaks over me or is just too full of themselves, I have trouble controlling my urge to give them a piece of their mind. Often in a not-so-polite manner. However, this reaction leads to arguments where no one emerges victorious. (This doesn’t change the fact that sometimes you really do need to teach people a lesson 🙄).
Generally speaking, I think success comes down to choosing the pain of discipline over the ease of distraction. And knowing our values reminds us of what we’re working towards. For instance, I see beauty in kindness and in clean, healthy lifestyles. As a result, it has started to become easier to remind myself of my purpose when I experience someone messing with me or when a big fluffy marshmallow stares at me, too. Regardless, it isn’t easy. With my teenage hormones and urge to fulfil every momentary desire, good luck keeping all that in mind Saania! Baby steps, baby steps…
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