I remember one day I got back home from school. That day was quite bitter, it was one of those days where I wanted to wrap myself with a blanket like a burrito and never face the world (people)…at least for a few hours 😅.
We may often feel like we need other people to appreciate us in order to feel whole. When I help someone at school and that person doesn’t appreciate what I do as much as they should (or they don’t treat me with the same level of respect), those feelings often bring out the worst in me. However, are they supposed to? Can I ever control that? Why does it matter? What does that say about me?
I stumbled upon a saying: “What we are inside, reflects on the outside”.
Firstly, we cannot expect others to accept or love us if we cannot not accept, love, and respect ourselves. It’s only once we build this confidence within us that we are more likely to maintain healthy relationships with people around.
Secondly, in its simplest form, respecting ourself also means accepting ‘fully’ the person we are. This means learning to accept all the good and all the bad that make us who we are. As a result, we love ourselves enough to realise that not every relationship we form with the people we meet every day is worth it. We can then choose the ones that make us happy, motivating us to grow, as well as let go off the ones that make us worse off.
Practices like yoga or even deep breathing have further helped me gain this self awareness. When we learn our worth, know our value, and advocate for ourselves as needed, that is when we truly come to respect ourselves.

⁃ SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻♀️
As always, your thoughts reflect a maturity far in excess of your age.
Best wishes, Pete.
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Thank you very much!
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Well said ❤️❤️
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Thank youu
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“Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted.” – Albert Einstein
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Thank you for this lovely quote!
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A post that needed sharing among the many who needed to hear!
Thank you Saania
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Exploring our inner self really fascinates us as it helps us to solve a lot of unanswered thoughts. Keep writing more like this. ☺️
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Social media make so many feel that they are “less than.” Good post.
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Couldn’t agree more ❤
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Great post 🙂
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love that burrito simile; Buddha said , if you show compassion for others but not for yourself, then your compassion is incomplete —
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Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏼
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Well said Saania!
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Thank you, Diane! ❤
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Oh so new post
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Absolutely true. We can choose whom we let into our world and if a relationship not longer brings value, one should stay away from.
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Reblogged this on Smiling Coasts.
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Right in target post Saania. Have a wonderful day!💞
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Great post! This is so motivational to love myself❤️
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Thank you so much 💕
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Great post.
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very true and as always well written. something that is not easy necessarily to feel about one’s self.
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Thank you Andy!
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Il y a un temps spécial
pour dire quelque chose de spéciale
à une personne spéciale
d’une manière spéciale
aux heures spéciales
étant spéciale pour moi
je te dis spécialement avec tant de spécialité:
BONJOUR,BON WEEK END BERNARD
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Very insightful post. I truly believe that if we make it a point to establish a healthy relationship with ourselves, everything else gets a little easier. 😇
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What we are inside, reflect on the outside- what a wonderful saying,loved this post! 💜
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
ONLY PLACE TO LOOK OUTSIDE TO IS GOD (THE LOVE OF CHRIST, IN MY OPINION) ALL ELSE IS SLANTED AND TO BE TAKEN WITH A GRAIN OF SALT. LEARN WHO YOU ARE—GROWING—FIRST! 😀
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Lovely thoughts. Only once we are complete and whole from the inside, only once we know our worth and capabilities, we can stop seeking validation from outside. Thanks for writing this Saania. 🙂
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Self respect is first and everything for me and your thoughts are so inspiring….keep it up💖
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Thank you for sharing!!… “It is not easy to find happiness within ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” (Agnes Repplier ).. 🙂
Until we meet again…
May your day be touched
by a bit of Irish luck,
Brightened by a song
in your heart,
And warmed by the smiles
of people you love.
(Irish Saying)
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Great post. We are supposed to love others as we love ourselves. (1 John 4:19) So if we don’t give ourselves love, respect, value, compassion, how can we give it to others? Blessings…
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Great post, Saania ! I like your philosophy! 💙
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Thank youuu
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Beautiful post
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I love this post very meaningful and deep. Your work is so powerful keep up the good writing
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… Annexed Crimea From
“Thich,” pronounced “tick,”
horror stories at brunch or in group… uncovered the drama accidentally. love bombing,” Shou says.,” the message reads in part.
up a river, with gunfire, apostle of peace and nonviolence.”
West Elm Caleb
confusion as to how
voices low
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(laughter) her look entangle strange,
Vietnam, died Jan. 22 at
weeks over the holidays, opened up about her experience –
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In hindu vedas there is a great saying अहम ब्रह्मास्मि, Aham brahmasmi . God exists in me.My soul is a part of creater.🙏
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So true. If we base our self worth on how others perceive us, that’s a set up for heartache and disappointment. I’m trying to base my self-worth on how God sees me, but the stuff you talked about is clouding my effort.
Great post and thank you for sharing!
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Well said…the more we respect ourselves the better we become for the people around us…
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I love you work and also a big fan pleSe follow me back
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This summary is well put! I am learning to accept the good and the bad as well. It’s easy to get thrown off by the attitude and actions of others, especially if their actions are contrary to yours. But, I am still learning how to not allow people, things, and situations to determine my mood for the day. And I do that just by being in a state of gratitude!
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Affirmative. Self awareness is one of the best traits. Wonderful thoughts.
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Sometimes it takes an entire lifetime to figure out the need to show self respect for one’s life. You’re ahead of the game.
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Hello
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Dear Amahle,
it has been 1,032 agonising days since I last laid my eyes on you. (like using a sing-song voice)
stuck in my throat since
“Havana syndrome,
“Avoid using nonsense or cutesy words with infants
“repudiation” and that they “cannot and must not be the final word on the matter.” Republicans and Democrats alike also bristled in surprise:
spreading (ironically) through 10yrs old using SAT level words,
undiagnosed medical conditions or stress.” deeper in the weeds, but that’s the nut of it:
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Great post
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Bonjour SAANIA
Mon petit passage du jour pour venir te dire bonjour, j y dépose ma petite image pleine de bonheur pour réchauffer ton cœur pour passer une agréable journée…
Amitié bise Bernard
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Bang on!
Truly agreed👍
Keep it up Saania😊🌸
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This hits hard and it’s so true , unless we are capable of loving and respecting ourselves , it’s only then that someone else will and respect us.
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You may never have seen the movie, “To Sir, With Love” It starred Sidney Poitier, one of my favorite actors who passed away recently. If you can find it, I think it might anwere your own question. Just a thought.
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Nice concept
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