What self-respect really is

I remember one day I got back home from school. That day was quite bitter, it was one of those days where I wanted to wrap myself with a blanket like a burrito and never face the world (people)…at least for a few hours 😅.

We may often feel like we need other people to appreciate us in order to feel whole. When I help someone at school and that person doesn’t appreciate what I do as much as they should (or they don’t treat me with the same level of respect), those feelings often bring out the worst in me. However, are they supposed to? Can I ever control that? Why does it matter? What does that say about me?

I stumbled upon a saying: “What we are inside, reflects on the outside”.

Firstly, we cannot expect others to accept or love us if we cannot not accept, love, and respect ourselves. It’s only once we build this confidence within us that we are more likely to maintain healthy relationships with people around.

Secondly, in its simplest form, respecting ourself also means accepting ‘fully’ the person we are. This means learning to accept all the good and all the bad that make us who we are. As a result, we love ourselves enough to realise that not every relationship we form with the people we meet every day is worth it. We can then choose the ones that make us happy, motivating us to grow, as well as let go off the ones that make us worse off.

Practices like yoga or even deep breathing have further helped me gain this self awareness. When we learn our worth, know our value, and advocate for ourselves as needed, that is when we truly come to respect ourselves.

⁃ SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻‍♀️

112 thoughts on “What self-respect really is

  1. Il y a un temps spécial
    pour dire quelque chose de spéciale
    à une personne spéciale
    d’une manière spéciale
    aux heures spéciales
    étant spéciale pour moi
    je te dis spécialement avec tant de spécialité:

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  2. Lovely thoughts. Only once we are complete and whole from the inside, only once we know our worth and capabilities, we can stop seeking validation from outside. Thanks for writing this Saania. 🙂


  3. Thank you for sharing!!… “It is not easy to find happiness within ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” (Agnes Repplier ).. 🙂

    Until we meet again…
    May your day be touched
    by a bit of Irish luck,
    Brightened by a song
    in your heart,
    And warmed by the smiles
    of people you love.
    (Irish Saying)


  4. Great post. We are supposed to love others as we love ourselves. (1 John 4:19) So if we don’t give ourselves love, respect, value, compassion, how can we give it to others? Blessings…


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  5. So true. If we base our self worth on how others perceive us, that’s a set up for heartache and disappointment. I’m trying to base my self-worth on how God sees me, but the stuff you talked about is clouding my effort.
    Great post and thank you for sharing!


  6. This summary is well put! I am learning to accept the good and the bad as well. It’s easy to get thrown off by the attitude and actions of others, especially if their actions are contrary to yours. But, I am still learning how to not allow people, things, and situations to determine my mood for the day. And I do that just by being in a state of gratitude!


    1. Dear Amahle,

      it has been 1,032 agonising days since I last laid my eyes on you. (like using a sing-song voice)

      stuck in my throat since

      “Havana syndrome,

      “Avoid using nonsense or cutesy words with infants

      “repudiation” and that they “cannot and must not be the final word on the matter.” Republicans and Democrats alike also bristled in surprise:

      spreading (ironically) through 10yrs old using SAT level words,

      undiagnosed medical conditions or stress.” deeper in the weeds, but that’s the nut of it:


  7. Bonjour SAANIA
    Mon petit passage du jour pour venir te dire bonjour, j y dépose ma petite image pleine de bonheur pour réchauffer ton cœur pour passer une agréable journée…
    Amitié bise Bernard


  8. You may never have seen the movie, “To Sir, With Love” It starred Sidney Poitier, one of my favorite actors who passed away recently. If you can find it, I think it might anwere your own question. Just a thought.


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