It is that time of the year where I get to be the centre of attention for a day. Where another 365 days lay ahead of me to make a wonderful difference to this world. But this day, unlike others, is extra special – well at least that’s what people say. Turning Eighteen. A magical milestone into adulthood…
Looking back, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learnt (with 100s others yet to come) is that in the depths of pain and confusion, we learn some of life’s most important lessons. For example, moving around schools and countries has been a pain for me. Making new friends meant leaving special ones behind. But it also enabled me to become my own best friend – not having to depend on anybody for my happiness. I have learnt that people come and go, but what’s more important is to build a solid foundation within myself, something I’ve only been able to do because of this pain.
I’ve also learnt that not everyone wants what you want. And that’s okay. Co-living with a twin for 18 years has taught me that in the time of certain types of conflicts, mutual respect leaves everyone better off. As my dad keeps reminding me, strengthening a priceless relationship is more important than winning a minor argument. I’ve also realised that we either try to change people who are different to us, or we avoid or ignore them completely. But there is actually a lot we can learn from them. My sister, for instance, taught me to empathise with others even though I may feel like I’m logically correct. Like it’s said, empathy doesn’t require a solution, only understanding.
I look forward to entering this stage where I’ll meet with many changes – some good and some bad, both with countless lessons to learn, as well as build beautiful relationships with the ones around me. Ready. Steady. Go. It’s time to adult!
⁃ SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻♀️