You have nothing to prove to anyone

Today’s world is difficult. And crazy. It is hard enough to find true happiness. What happens when we add in another person’s ideals about how we should live our lives or what defines our success? We feel exhausted, no?

The good news is that it is in our hands to break out of this nasty cycle. If there is one thing I’ve learnt, it is that our values are not determined based on external validation (other people’s approval of us).

I was once travelling to a different country and wanted to buy all my friends back home some souvenirs. I remember trying to search for a special gift for one of my special friends. I went from shop to shop looking for something they’d like with the temperature around me being 1°C. I was cold! And aching. But yet I never stopped looking until I eventually found a perfect present I knew would bring a smile to my friend’s face. When it came to giving the gift, however, my friend never appreciated it. For the next few days, I felt disheartened. That is until I realised that our value is inherent and not determined based on the way people treat us. I got the gifts with love and kindness in my heart – only I know that. Can I really control what happens after?

At the end of the day, we don’t have to prove anything to anyone. If you are someone who went out of their way to do something good for someone, but they didn’t notice it, you haven’t lost anything. You know why? Because no matter how the universe treats us, our values are what make us who we are. And values are what define our purpose. This is when we develop our own “personal truth”, after which the opinions of others stop mattering.

⁃ SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻‍♀️

74 thoughts on “You have nothing to prove to anyone

  1. Thank you very much for this post. I’ve been going to spiritual study group for years because I like the people and some of the content has been good. Over time, the group has become increasingly heavy in content and in the leader’s direction about how we should live our lives. In stepping away from the group, I feel true to myself and my own values. Your post is an affirmation.


  2. Saania, you are gaining wisdom at your young age. It is natural, I think, for human beings to want to be accepted. We seek validation in many ways. Too often, though, we get bogged down by societal messages telling us we are not good enough. Sometimes these messages come from family members or religious institutions. It took me a long time to learn that I don’t need other people to become mirrors for my reflection. You might like the poem a just posted. It reflects this theme.


  3. So perfectly said. It can be puzzling or even painful to try so hard to please someone, and with little or no response, but it’s your good heart that tried and that really is all that counts.


  4. Thank you for posting this amazing piece! It is exhausting to think you can be successful based on anyone’s standard. It will never end! It is amazing to set goals based on what you feel internal.

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