Everything in life has something to teach

Do you ever feel hesitant in forming new friendships? No one gets to know the real you? How could they? They’d never get it. And what’s the point? Because everyone who enters your life leaves in the end anyway…

Friendships are one of the most important pillars in our life. They form our support system – a beautiful sanctuary where we can share good times and bad times, and feel loved and understood. A place where we feel like we are accepted and appreciated.

Or at least they should feel like that.

If you are someone like me, however, who has questioned the questions above, I often think to myself: why do some people come into my life when they are going to leave anyway? It’s a heart wrenching feeling. It makes me feel like anyone who comes too close will most probably abandon me one day. Very soon. So why get my hopes up in the first place? Over time, though, a bitter truth I learnt is that not everyone who comes into my life is meant to stay in it forever. Some friendships naturally grow apart, and that’s life for us.

One thing this taught me is how to appreciate love even more. Once we learn that relationships may be temporary, we start to appreciate the people around us more, we want to let them know how we feel, and how much we care about them while we still have the chance to. I realised the importance of making memories worth remembering with every friend I make in my life.

When people leave or friendships fade (emotionally or physically), we shouldn’t delve into it, but rather into the lessons they teach us. Unless you’re doing something seriously wrong that pushes the people you love away (which is a separate discussion for some other time), you must remember that this happens not because you aren’t worthy of lovely friends or because you don’t deserve to have good things in life, it’s because everything in life is unpredictable and so are people. It is good to have people in your life. It is better when they make the choice of sticking with you in rain and shine. However, when the time comes and they decide to go, don’t beg them to stay. Being sad about it will be the human thing to do, but in the end, above all things, be grateful for the lessons they taught and brought into your life. They were once everything you ever wanted. They were once your happiness. Don’t allow them to be the reason you start to look down on yourself – someone you will always have no matter what.

Be of good cheer…because everything happens for a reason.

⁃ SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻‍♀️

145 thoughts on “Everything in life has something to teach

  1. Saania, It has always been one of my core beliefs that every experience is a learning experience and every person we meet knows something we don’t. You have beautifully expressed this idea and written with great depth and wisdom on the subject of friendship. Wonderful post! ❤ Have a great week!

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  2. Fantastic blog! I have so many friends that have come and go. I let myself get very attached to people however you are so right some people are just there to teach us a lesson and we have to remember the people we do have in your life.

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  3. Reading this gave me another perspective on not just friendships, but life! I have a tendency to think deeply into certain things which cause me to overlook at times. This teaches me that some people, things, and situations may just be there for a season but overall for a reason. Although I expect things to stay the same, this teaches me to appreciate what I have and the people around me while expecting and accepting change. Life is unpredictable! Thank you for sharing!

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  4. Bon Jeudi A Tous
    Bon Jeudi A Tous
    “Faites-vous votre objectif de faire sourire quelqu’un ce jeudi par un petit acte de gentillesse, vous pourriez changer la vie d’une personne d’une manière que vous ne réalisez même pas.”

    “Le moindre acte de gentillesse vaut plus que la plus grande intention.”

    “Les jeudis et matins ne se mélangent pas. Rien ne va avec les matins.”

    “Une des meilleures choses que vous pouvez faire jeudi est de vous tenir pour responsable de vos objectifs.”
    bisous BERNARD

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  5. Profound and wise. You’re a good example of what you’ve written—at 16 years most adults may think there’s nothing to learn from you. I’ve only just happened upon your blog and from the two posts I’ve read I’m impressed with the depth of your insight for one so young. Glad I “found” your space here. Cheers, Dee

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  6. To answer your first question, YES, I am very very hesitant in forming new friendship.

    I recall, my good friend once asked me, “Why is your face so emotionless ? Do you not feel nostalgia ? Today is the last day of our session.” My answer was unusual, “Life is a series of phases.”

    To explain it now, life is like a river flowing, and it leaves behind old friends by the bank at every turn of life, like pre-primary school friends, school friends, high school, college, jobs and so on.

    My philosophical perception : “When one feels, one is inhabitant of a place, one feels emotional while changing the place. But if one feels, one is a voyager in this infinitum of space and time, one realizes one is never leaving but rather moving, like from a room to another room in the same house of life.”

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  7. Yes absolutely when some special friend goes from our instead of becoming depressed we need to take it as a part of our life and of course we learn a good lesson from it. Very well written 😊👌🌹

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    1. A Chamber Of , Anger!!

      

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