The people we choose to let into our lives leave one of the greatest impacts on our hearts. Kenzoku “眷族” is a Japanese word that loosely translates to ‘family’. However, it suggests a deeper meaning: the deepest connection of friendship. It is camaraderie, the family we choose for ourselves. The other day I was marveling over the kinds of people who have stumbled across my life. Then I came to wonder, what makes a true friend?
💜 A true friend is someone who accepts you for who you are. When you are around them, you never have to pretend to be someone you are not. They accept your flaws and love you just the way you are.
💜 A true friend is never envious. They understand that you may have to do your thing, so they do their thing, and you celebrate one another without jealousy or animosity.
💜 Around a true friend, you feel safe, comfortable, and loved.
💜 A true friend is not superficial. They are willing to get deep with you. I was talking to my dad one day about how I have always only let people in so far. How I have always put on a facade because I never wanted people to get to know the real me. I have done a lot of growing ever since, and realized that true friends let you see the good, the bad, and the ugly.
💜 A true friend shows up. I cannot count the number of times people cancel plans on the very last minute. A true friend makes friendship the priority. We all have seasons in our lives when we get extremely busy, but if someone matters to you, you find a way to make it work. You find a way to be there.
💜 True friends don’t leave you when things get difficult. I agree with the old saying “actions speak louder than words”. Many people tell you that they will be there for you when you need them, but during tough times, true friends are the ones who choose to stay. They stick around no matter the circumstances, and never walk away when you are scared, overwhelmed, or dealing with a hard time.
💜 You do not hurt the ones you love. You do not humiliate the ones you love. You do not lie to the ones you love. True friendship is about love, and loving someone unconditionally.
As I write this post, I picture three people in my life I consider kenzoku. How about you? Let me know in the comments!
– SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻♀️
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Equally hard to get 🙂
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Somethin’ Somthin & Twenty Tootsie??
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What is hard to get is quality.
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Well said 🙂 I have a few, and they are the ones who matter most ♥️
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I am blessed to have friends like this. Very good post. 😁
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Totaly agree on this
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Absolutely beautiful about Friends. Friends are my Kenzoku and inner strength, whose pain and joy we feel. One never leaves friends who played a part in our lives. Yes, we don’t hurt the ones we love.
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Hi there,
Nice article and blog, thank you ver much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us, we know how important is experience in our lives.
take care and best regards
Your follower,
Alex
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You wrote this so beautiful!
I am very rich that I can say I have a few ow this true friends. ❤ But it makes me also sad because my best friend died last week. 😦
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“What makes a friend, a friend wants positive things and values
for you that she/he wants for themselve.”
_Van Prince
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Well said.
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Thanks
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Beautifully said ♥️♥️ You are the truest friend ever!!!
Thank you also for your ‘Follow’ on my Blog – I am honoured 😀
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Its the most difficult job to find a trueee friend..🙂
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I don’t have a lot of friends but the ones I have are priceless. We often do not agree about politics but we can overlook this “flaw” if you will. I love my friends! Is it
because I chose them???
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As the saying goes; friends are the family you get to choose yourself
As I was reading this, I pictured two people in my life, my best friends. They’ve been more than a blessing from God…
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Beautifully written, Saania! Friends like those are not easy to come by but so precious when you do!
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Very well written
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Great post.
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Wonderful post, love is so expansive, 🙏🏾💡
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Beautiful thoughts☘
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I LOVE YOUR BLOG! ❤
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Love true friends
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I have a number of people that I can name off the top of my head, right until the last point. What if all those people I can think of for the Bill, but I am the one who hides, and the one who ultimately hurts them unintentionally? What if I’m the bad seed? Food for thought.
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Japanese, right up my alley. You’re very wise and deep, and correct!
Kintsukuroi is another great word.
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Our perspective of who true friends are change as we experience more of life. I cannot picture just three, but many. Not necessarily people who I consider my friends, as people change over time and areas of common interest can grow widely apart, but many people who have been true friends to me at different points in my life. Some reciprocal, and some gestures of kindness so deep and so generous that I can only repay them by doing the same for someone else.
The friendships of childhood and college somehow have a different and timeless quality to later friendships so treasure those as you find them.
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