What Defines You?

As we go through our lives, we get to discover ourselves. Sometimes, however, we see people around us who “seem” better than us, and we start to question our very selves. We see someone who is smart and think we aren’t smart enough. We see someone who is pretty and feel we aren’t beautiful enough. I have often been around a group of people where sometimes, I would feel like I’m not as gorgeous as them. Or sometimes, I would think “oh my word I’m so dumb!”. But then I asked myself, what really defines us?

As I see it, embracing our individuality is the bravest thing we can ever do. To gather every ounce of courage to accept ourselves for who we are when we live in a society that is burdened with labels and opinions. Lizzie Velasquez, a motivational speaker, was 17 when she stumbled upon a video about herself on YouTube titled “The World’s Ugliest Woman.” My heart breaks for her, and I cannot fathom how she felt after reading it. But in one of her TED talks, this graceful women during her speech said, “You are the one who decides what defines you”.

Nobody is ugly. We just happen to live in a very judgmental society. But the moment you accept your true self, you will have a lesser amount of stress from trying to be someone you’re not. You will also have a lesser amount of stress from trying to find things outside of yourself to make you happy. You will even find your own set of features to define who you are. When we start to seek this within ourselves, we will no longer need that approval from external places, people, and things. We will no longer need to hide within because we feel we should change. At the end of the day, we can choose to let our weaknesses define us, or we can choose to let our strengths do the same. When we do so, we are given the room to enjoy and love life. So choose the latter. You will win.

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157 thoughts on “What Defines You?

  1. It’s a big issue we face in this present world. We’re not smart enough or pretty enough for someone’s standards and they choose to point it out bluntly as if they want to hurt us. Those people are really the ones who feel insecure about themselves. Thank you for publishing a post about this issue which needed to be addressed for a long time.

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  2. Purtroppo l’attuale società è molto basata sull’apparenza, la visibilità…e succede che molti di noi si sentano impropri. Si può aver bisogno anche di un supporto per essere aiutati a superare ciò che noi cediamo una nostra debolezza, ma se riuscissimo a vedere ciò che di buono riusciamo a fare, ad accettarci fisicamente, moralmente, acquisteremmo una serenità che ci permetterebbe di attraversare tranquilamente ogni situazione.
    Personalmente ho avuto un tentennamento pre-adolescenziale, mi sentivo insicura, ma grazie al mio carattere e al grande sostegno e positività della mia famiglia e poi delle persone con cu ho lavorato ho superato il problema. Ora ono una persona che aiuta gli altri a conquistare se stessi.

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  3. Nicely written! Love this post 💖 I couldn’t agree more. We are each very unique and you have to love who you are because your happiness comes from within. You cannot give your power to others, you have to hold on tight. This is where your strength will come from. I really admire Lizzie’s strength, courage and tenacity to spin the negative thoughts and comments into positive ones. Thank you for this lovely post. Have a great weekend!!! 😘

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  4. A thought-provoking post, Saania. When I see someone that I deem better than myself in some way, I don’t see it as my not being enough of anything. We are all who we are and that is enough and gives us worth. When I see someone who I deem better than myself in some area (those last three words are important), I see it as a challenge to grow in that area. I don’t put myself down but see that person as an inspiration. Thank you for posting. I hope you are well and finding happiness in the world.

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  5. Related to this is also learning not to compare. The world can be judgmental, but we can also be judgmental of ourselves, especially when we compare ourselves to others. Doing that can be destructive to ourselves and also our friendships, and it keeps us from listening to God and allowing God to define us (God made us, after all!) so that we can be truly fulfilled as who we are, not as others are.

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  6. True words. We should change our perspective towards ourselves. Learn to embrace who we are, this way we will lead a peaceful life that’s not dependent on approvals or societal fears.

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  7. Thank you for a wonderful Blog! It is quite interesting, as I am on let’s call it a path into self-discovering, realization and development, and this blog is really something I have been looking for.

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  8. What defines your or what do you want your legacy to be is a question I like to ask people and glad you wrote about it

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