Why do we really do random acts of kindness?

We often hear the phrase “random acts of kindness”, it is a relatively well-known concept. When you think about the times you’ve practiced random acts of kindness, what are some past practices that come to mind?

I found myself thinking about this question as I wrote this post because it’s an interesting one to ask, “When did I give something without expecting anything in return?

A little too often, I find it difficult to spread light and positivity when I don’t get the same in return. I go on sprinkling my love and my kindness, and I even end up feeling silly when I don’t get treated the same. But one lovely summer afternoon, my very wise teacher told me – we should operate from happiness, and not for happiness, and treat people with no expectations of being treated the same. Spread love. Don’t always do it for them – do it because that’s who you are!

I took his advice to heart, and I now see what he meant. I remember spending a day in a school with underprivileged kids, simply teaching, playing, and making Nutella and peanut butter jelly sandwiches with them. I didn’t quite get anything in return, but my reason to feel happy was right in front of me. Their precious little faces beaming with pleasure and smiles. That was my lesson learnt that day, and I now believe in it with all my heart.

The beautiful thing about random acts of kindness is that there are not only benefits to the receiver, but also to the giver. Reflecting upon that, there are heaps of little things we can do. Picking up litter on the beach. Serving at a homeless shelter. Volunteering at an animal shelter. Planting a tree. Sending someone a heartfelt letter instead of a text. I would love to hear some of your ideas for tiny acts of kindness: what do you think? Pop them in the comments below :).

⁃ SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻‍♀️

204 thoughts on “Why do we really do random acts of kindness?

  1. Guten Tag.

    Es ist viel getan
    nicht gegen die eigenen Behinderung
    mit der Angst
    mit dem Scheitern
    den Verlust
    die ungerechte Wut eines anderen
    den eigenen Schatten
    zu, in allen Dingen
    die eigene Machbarkeit
    als Beschränkung zu sehen
    nicht der vornehmen Dienstbarkeit
    ein Held zu sein
    alle Last die im Alltag anfällt
    mutig zu ertragen

    Herzliche Grüße
    Hans Gamma


    Good day.

    Much has been done
    not against your own disability
    with fear
    with failure
    the loss
    someone else’s unjust anger
    own shadow
    too, in all things
    own feasibility
    to be seen as a limitation
    not the noble easement
    to be a hero
    all load which arises in everyday life
    courageously to endure

    Best regards
    Hans Gamma

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  2. Kindness has no definition… Just do your bit and enjoy the happiness. Give or take it’s a win win situation 😊
    Shabbaash Saania! 👏👏👏🤗

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  3. I am not a perfect person but I am certainly a kind person. It is natural for me to make myself useful to someone I see in difficulty. I know how to give a lady a ride with a full shopping bag. Or help distribute food to Caritas. Obviously I don’t expect anything back, but I can assure you that every kind gesture towards others does me a lot of good and improves me every time. 🙂

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  4. Oh how I L❤️VE this message

    At the funeral of a family friend I heard so many beautiful and touching stories about this man and wondered if they shared them with him when he was alive???

    This started me on my path of sharing kind thoughts instead of keeping them to myself.

    Friend. Family. Stranger. If I have a kind thought, it will be shared.

    It is outrageously uplifting and addictive ❤️❤️

    This is a wonderful and inspiring post Saania❣️🥰🤗

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  5. Loved it! I have picked up litter on the beach and found that little kids started helping too. It was amazing. I think spending time with old people, baking for them, reading for them could be a good idea. Maybe someone that hasn’t a family. Now with rampant covid one needs to be cautious with the elders in order to protect them. Regards!

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  6. On WordPress, I think commenting, following, or simply clicking the “like” button on a post. I search for a subject and then look for the posts with a low amount of likes and read that one. I read and buy books from writers who are not NY Times best-selling authors. Those are the people who need support.

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  7. I have always believe one should always be kind to a person. Those who are not kind to others is an expression of something that is a void in them.

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  8. This post is amazingly true! I believe in kindness a lot! I believe in making people feel loved or appreciated in any way that I can! It equally makes me feel good about myself. I feel totally proud! The thing is genuinely reaching out to people in their time of need in your own little way puts in a place or situation where you’d receive the same kindness and sometimes even more. That’s how life works!

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  9. The Bible is filled w/ verses encouraging kindness. You have captured the heart of it: that we do unto others as we would have them do unto us, whether or not we receive any material reward. It is good rule to live by. One might even say the golden rule. 🙂

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  10. Perhaps an act of kindness would be to call your elderly relatives frequently and spend a few minutes listening to them. Share some warm words with them and let them know that they have not been forgotten.

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  11. Great post and examples of kindness from your readers. Kindness can be as simple as giving someone a compliment or checking in on someone who lives alone. Donations to worthy causes are a great way to spread kindness without expecting anything in return. I like the saying … “In a world where you can be anything, BE KIND!”

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  12. Great post, and so true! I agree that we often do something in order to get something in return (even unconsciously), but the act of giving (including time) in itself brings so much happiness when it comes from the right place – and not expecting something in return 😊

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  13. I love this line: we should operate from happiness, and not for happiness…
    Our elderly neighbor down the street epitomizes this ideal. She embroiders beautiful Christmas villages and gives them to random people (my daughter one year). I think her smile of joy outshone everyone else’s!

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  14. I think part of the beauty is that no “random act if kindness” is in fact random. It may seem random to the receiver. But for the giver, it is always done for some purpose and with some motive.

    What you say about acting “from happiness” and not “for happiness” is very poignant. If our ultimate goal is to bring joy to others or to ourselves, then we will sometimes be disappointed. But if our goal is simply to express an existing joy that we already have, then each kind act is a success whether or not the other person is as impacted as we hoped.

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  15. I really should do more of this. Love the idea of giving happiness to the world rather than trying to get it (yep, I paraphrased). It’s morning – there’s a lot of time today to do something good. Thank you. 🙂

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  16. I often give a smile to a colleague walking past me..or say a word or two when together in a lift rather than being absorbed in my mobile… actually this is more of courtesy rather than kindness…but I feel happy to do it while others don’t care.

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  17. hello!
    Great topic!
    An additional gift when being kind to others with no particular reason, is that you are instantly kind to yourself. The pure act of kindness (real and honest compliment for instance) or giving (home made and baked cookies) releases some good stuff in our brain. And you feel good. That is what I teach 🙂
    I got into a habit of making some goodies in my kitchen and giving it to my hairdresser right before I have a dentist appointment (the two: dentist and hairdresser, are just across the street from each other). And I make some goodies for the dentist and her assistant; sugar free. This reduces my feeling of discomfort.
    have a good day (or whatever is rest of it, or a good tomorrow)

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  18. Hi, Saania,

    I hope you are very well. I guess I’ve experienced random acts of kindness in response to random occurrences of need, though I’m sure one can be more intentional about it, as in looking for a situation to respond to. Yesterday I delivered mail (employing safe-distancing) to a former neighbor. It had been accumulating in what had been our building, and I decided that there were some real-looking pieces (not general advertisements) that she might need. I guess that was a random act of kindness, though I hadn’t thought of it that way until just now, your post a prompt to teasing thought.

    I think it is an attitude and an approach to life. Your review and appraisal are, as the British say, spot-on.


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  19. Oh, Saania!!! You are an ABSOLUTE Angel!!! You gift so much JOY and so many smiles! Thank You so very much for this post and for so open-heartedly being YOURSELF and sharing Your beautiful heart with the world!!! Sending HUGE hugs and so much Love Your way!!! 🤗❤️😊

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  20. No one in my bowling league is wearing a mask. My husband was concerned and asked me to please wear one. So I did. Two other women are now wearing masks because I gave them the courage to be in the minority. I think the term ‘random’ is misleading. Kindness is always intentional because it comes from love.

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