As we go through our lives, one of the most important things we learn is how to connect with people. No wonder we, humans, are known to be “social animals.”
Feeling heard is a human need, and all of us want to feel understood.
Often when I would have an argument with someone, I would almost find myself preparing my response instead of genuinely trying to listen to them. But I now realise that people don’t want to hear your “logic” all the time. Sometimes, they just want to be understood. Like we all do. Empathy is something that helps us get in touch with our feelings and hence gives us an emotional understanding of others around us.
Or at school, I would always want to be seen as the ‘smartest’ amongst my friends. And so I would brag about my grades, step on the feelings of others, and be just so full of myself. I now realise that people don’t care about that. We would all rather want to be around people who understand us, people who have the ability to be happy for us, and people who can connect with us emotionally. It is not always about being the best and the most ‘perfect’ person in the group, it is so much about being a kind person who is always ready to help others, be there for others, and appreciate others with a big smile on our face.
We should be kind because it makes us feel good about ourselves. I can think about the days I do good things for other people. Helping them with the maths homework we get in school or simply listening to their troubles in life. These make me feel warm. I feel like I have accomplished something. I feel like I have a purpose in life. I may have hundreds of dreams to fulfil but nothing makes my heart happier than knowing that I make a difference in someone’s life.
Empathy works so well because it doesn’t require a solution. It requires understanding – when we step outside our own emotions to view things from the perspective of others. By thinking outside ourselves and feeling others, we develop a medicine this world needs.
⁃ SaaniaSparkle🧚🏻♀️
Well said😇
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So nice…. your words reflect your intellect and kindness… Happy to follow you 💝💝
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I agree
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I totally agree..Empathy and compassion is a wonderful combination too:) Well said….
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Nice post 👍😁
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This is so beautifully written and speaks truth. Indeed kindness goes a long way in helping us emotionally and mentally and also in making the world a better place. Thank You Saania 💕
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So true!
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Very well written and I agree. Empathy, compassion, and kindness go a long way to how much you care about others. Even if we don’t know their backstory. I work with some recovering from addictions and are homeless. God asks us to help those who may be less fortunate, those who seem the least, the lost, and the hopeless. I share Hope and Love to all…Great post and insights, Saania. All of us can learn from this one.
Cat
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#wannabethat
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I agree with you 💯 A very great post.
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agree. among my peers, it is not so much the guys who made it to the very top of the class who were most successful. emotional intelligence or emotional quotient (EQ) can make a far bigger difference than intelligence quotient (IQ).
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Have hit on a lot of good points. Got me thinking, where does empathy, compassion, emotional intelligence come from, now this is only off the top of my head….
But I feel it comes from our connection with the world around us, the more we are connected to the mystical, spiritual, metaphysical. When we understand that everything has a life force within them, we become aware that they to feel all that we feel. And having them thoughts takes us away from attachment to our own thoughts. Only through selflessness can we obtain happiness and freedom.
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This is beautifully and simply articulated. Thank you!
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This post has such a powerful message. Life goes beyond proving to our friends and environment that we are powerful. One of the things that will never be forgotten is how we make people feel. Life is lived better when you give rather than showing off yourself and feeling big. I loved this post!
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Very wise words!
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Great post.
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Our connections exist through the heart …
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It’s a beautiful thought…🙂 loved it
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Wonderful. Leaves one with a good feeling.
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Great post! Well reasoned and well-written. This is a very mature understanding of empathy, a subject many people much older than you don’t comprehend.
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Yes, Saania, treat everyone around you exactly like you yourself would like to be treated!
Nothing less!
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Very well put. I enjoyed reading this post. Helped me revive my own purpose. 🙂
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That is attractive and interesting
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Well done, my friend. You’re right! WE NEED TO LISTEN! How many times has someone asked someone a question and then disagreed with the answer. “IF YOU AREN’T PREPARED FOR MY ANSWER DO NOT ASK ME A QUESTION.” The reverse is just as important. “IF I ASK YOU A QUESTION I SHOULD BE PREPARED TO CONSIDER YOUR ANSWER.”
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Coucou mon Amie et jolie SANIA
Mes pensées à partager avec vous
Il nous reste une vie malgré le temps qui court
Il nous reste cette vie pour bien remplir nos jours quel quand soit son parcours
Il nous reste la vie pour chercher l’ amour ou celle de l’amitié
C’est vrai que nous cherchons parfois
A nous raccrocher au passé
Sans trop savoir pourquoi , surtout sans trop vouloir y penser
Mais l’on sais bien qu’au fond de soi
Que le temps coule comme un sablier
Qu’importe mes Amies Amis il faut le vivre l’instant présent et profiter de nos journées
Belle Journée ou Bonne fin d’après-midi a toi dans le calme et la douceur
Bises amicales
Bernard
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Nice post!
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Thank you!
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Amazing post and Well written. I really enjoyed this peice of writing.
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This is very true. Empathy really does serve as the foundation of many relationships!
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If only more people could be like this. Or even try… So much conflict would just dissipate.
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This is spot on! You have a great way with words.
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this reminds me of a passage in an old Laurens van der Post book about an African tribal greeting – “I see you” – we all want and need to be acknowledged, and in our world it’s so easy to become invisible.
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informative n interesting,thnx to share this lovely post.
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It’s my pleasure!
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Well.. Written dear
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This a real help to oneself. Instead of seeking it from world, one must keep going with his good deeds and as it’s all said it’s paid at the end.
This is inspiring at the end of the day.
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Well done to have this level of understanding and compassion at your age. Would you be surprised to know that there are those who are born with it? Empathy is powerful, now learn about those who walk among us know as an Empath. If you come across one, hang on. There is quite a bit about Empaths online and although some of it isn’t valid, there is a lot to learn. There are also those who grab on to an Empath to use and manipulate them. However, there are others who run from them as an Empath reflects what it is that they try to hide from people, and from themselves. It can give you a new way of seeing someone who seems average to you and you wonder why some will avoid them? Perhaps they are Empathic. We don’t simply understand another’s pain, we absorb it and feel it as if it were our own. All the best on your journey, Léa
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Feeling heard is a human need
True
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Indeed right? 🤗
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Well Said
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