Happiness- our natural state

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Quite often, our mind is flooded with a stream of negative emotions because of things as minute as waiting in a long queue, a top that just won’t fit, or even receiving a ‘K’ from a friend. Yes, we have all been there! These situations clutter our mind with pesky thoughts that get in our way of feeling cheerful and contented, and so no matter what happens right after, we feel vexatious for the rest of the day. I find myself getting infuriated or simply sad over the tiniest of things from time to time. But I’m beginning to realise that even in a face of affliction, it is possible to bring a smile and cultivate happiness again.

Some of the everyday things that annoy us, are actually quite easy to solve. For example, whenever I have a small argument with one of my friends, I often explode with anger and exasperation for the rest of the day. But after a while we realise that it just requires a little bit of maturity to resolve and be in good terms again. We could go on feeling resentful about it, but we’ll soon realise that winning a friendship/relationship is far more important than winning an argument.

As for other things, they just happen to be unsolvable. They might be irritating but there is nothing we can do about them. For example, the traffic on the road. There is no point in wasting our time worrying about it because releasing our frustration never makes the cars move faster (as much as I wish it could!).

Moreover, very few of us live our lives in absolute isolation. We all have families, friends, and loved ones with whom we interact with on a daily basis. So, if we’re happy, then it’s likely to mean that they’ll feel happier too. Through our own emotions, we actually generate a feeling on many others around us. So despite how common it is for us humans to feel annoyed and get bent out of shape from time to time, we can always reprogram this by controlling our negative thoughts and finding our happy state that is within our own grasp.

I personally feel that meditation and breathing practices undoubtedly open our doors to finding this internal happiness. Neuroscientist Sara Lazar’s studies show that maintaining a consistent meditation practice leads to a thickening in a few major areas of the brain, that increases our ability to cope with the uncomfortable and stressful tribulations that life often throws. Yet another study shows that meditation shrinks a particular portion of our brain called the “amygdala.” This is the section of our mind that controls fear and anxiety. So the smaller that gets, the happier we become as a whole. Another thing that entices me to meditation, is that when we meditate, we are not trying to get rid of any thoughts. Whatever it is that we feel, we let the thoughts in, and we let the thoughts out, until our mind instinctively enters a state of tranquility.

So even though we often stumble across infernal situations, we should remember that it’s our natural state to feel happy. We are all programmed to feel happiness as the norm, but it’s the little things in life that get in our way and alter our programming for the worst. Therefore, it’s in our hands to foster the contentment, and most importantly, retrieving the most intrinsically important state of the mind- happiness.

Also, happy Valentine’s Day!

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-SaaniaSparkle 🧚🏻‍♀️

151 thoughts on “Happiness- our natural state

  1. Just like the loving parent He is, God DID make us to be happy. And He provides the way to find it, even on the dark days: His peace (Isaiah 26:3), joy (Psalm 16:11), and loving care (Matthew 6:25-34) provide the foundation; His wisdom provides ways to maintain happiness, such as guarding our thought life (Philippians 4:8) and expressing gratitude (Psalm 107:21-22). You are right, Saania: meditation is key–meditation on the attributes and deeds of God truly augments happiness for me!

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  2. “Another thing that entices me to meditation, is that when we meditate, we are not trying to get rid of any thoughts. Whatever it is that we feel, we let the thoughts in, and we let the thoughts out, until our mind instinctively enters a state of tranquility.” – so true, Saania! And I believe one can enter a meditative state many ways, dance, music, art, reading, so much! Which probably just goes to prove your point, happiness is our natural state 😊

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  3. Most beautifully written post inspiring to be happy.yeah. Sara Lazar’s study is motivational.quote are most beautiful.i believe in positive thoughts and try always to be happy.nice post,dear sania!!🌷

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  4. What a great reminder! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences and wisdom. I also enjoy your use of language. For example, I love the tone of this sentence: “These situations clutter our mind with pesky thoughts that get in our way of feeling cheerful and contented.” Please keep reading and thinking and learning and writing!

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  5. If happiness is our natural state of mind, why do anxiety and grievance outweigh it? Why is happiness rare as described by Ralph W. Emerson? Why do we need spiritual masters like Buddha or Jesus to reveal love, then embracing the institution of religion to constantly remind ourselves of it? Why do we need to be constantly reminded even if love is innate? Is it possible we are prisoners of guilt so blind to see the truth?

    Something tells me finding love is not meant to be easy. It’s not meant to be obvious because love is woven into the fabric of our ego. Truth is inversely proportional to pride as I stated in my article, “The Cloak, and Dagger of Fallacy”.

    Love is precious because it’s rare to find. We are meant to search for love as life would have intended in order to receive it with gratitude, and not the contrary that would give us hope as prisoners of guilt.

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  6. “For example, the traffic on the road. There is no point in wasting our time worrying about it”
    —Totally agree! It’s crazy how stressed other people get about driving. But I don’t let them ruin my enjoyment of it :).

    “But after a while we realise that it just requires a little bit of maturity”
    —I swear sometimes I think somebody older than you are must be writing your posts! It’s so great that you are putting these positive ideas out, so early on. I get the impression you read a LOT?

    “I personally feel that meditation and breathing practices undoubtedly open our doors to finding this internal happiness”
    —Meditation was one of the best things I ever got into! I haven’t done it now for about a year, because a lot of traumatic things happened and my circumstances were bad. Most of the time I still can’t here, because I don’t have a peaceful environment. But I still practice it daily from moment-to-moment, especially in times such as waiting in a queue! Even having done it well once, has given me an invaluable tool!

    You really are in control of your anxiety response to things— almost all of the time. This is the number one thing I remind myself of— I can control my reaction, and subdue anxiety by going into more of a centered, meditative state.

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  7. Saania, your words are very inspirational! I completely agree with what you’ve described so well. I can relate to letting myself get upset over things when I could instead chose to not get upset🤗. I used to meditate and I felt wonderful, I had the same problems but had a different perspective on them. Your post is reminding me to begin meditating again. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.❤️🙏🙂

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  8. Here, here! I couldn’t agree with your hypotheses more. As I teenager I was constantly comparing myself to others…long before social media made it so easy and obvious. In my 20s, I realized that I am a unique being. No one can be like me. Nor can I be like anyone else. So why not just embrace our uniqueness. Of course, every now and then the green-eyed monster will try to escape the closet, but I recognize it now and quickly slam the door on it. Great post.

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  9. What a thoughtful post!

    I realize that sometimes I expect the world to be fair. But it’s impossible; people are competing. They do things, fair or unfair, to win. And it’s not their fault at all; it’s just how the mechanism of the world works. They won’t be able to survive if they can’t compete. Besides, all their lives they’ve absorbed things from their surroundings, and it has contributed in shaping how they perceive things.

    I guess one of the best things to do is avoiding thinking too deep about shallow problems.

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