Forget the past, remember the lesson

The past often traps us in this overwhelming bubble that seems to hold us back from doing more. Events from the past seem to have a mind of their own. Memories keep recirculating when all you want is for them to disappear. Indeed, how nasty! 

But as I always say, our happiness is our responsibility alone, and not anyone else’s. 

Healing is a process, and like any other process it takes time. Just like to heal a wound we need to stop touching it, to move on with life we need to let go of the past. So many times we feel that things could have gone better and so we feel anger, guilt, or shame. These feelings come because the actions we did or the things that happened to us are not in line with our current morals and values. But if anything, these are cues to push harder. I always like to believe that even the worst of things have something to teach us, and while it can be difficult to always apprehend this, living is a process of developing oneself which only happens when we continuously learn. And the truth is, there is always something to learn, and there is no better way of getting out of this bubble and moving on than to learn from the past. We all have our weaknesses, which when left unaddressed, limit our potential for impact and significance. Discover them – and that can only happen when reflecting upon the past. Every new day presents the opportunity to become a better person on a better road destined for a better future. The talents we use to navigate and provide value to this world define the lives we live and the change we can offer. And by recalling our strengths in the past, we can recognise our opportunities in the present, in a better way.

Because after all, that which does not kill us outright makes us stronger. Our pasts have the power to bring us down to our knees, but an even stronger power to make things better. Accept that, and trust that! 

“Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.” – Jean Paul Sartre

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172 thoughts on “Forget the past, remember the lesson

  1. i read it again…very slowly…sheer brilliance…the articulation…the thoughts…just amazing…makes me understand…humbleness is an attitude that should be cultivated and should not be lost at any cost…for words of wisdom should be embraced from anyone with open arms regardless of any attributes/characteristics…this reminds me of a proverb in the Tamil language

    “சிறு துரும்பும் பல் குத்த உதவும்”

    which translates to “Even a tiny stick can be used as a toothpick”

    We are all just tiny sticks helping each other to realise and achieve the higher purpose of life.

    Hats off to you!

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  2. Exactly my feelings about past. Letting go and learning the lesson is the best thing to go. Also i would say, we often are disconnected from ourselves, which is the reason for the situations that are presented in life. They are there to direct you to your inner self. I learnt it the hard way.

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  3. Jean Paul Sartre also said that with freedom comes responsibility. We are, indeed, responsible for our own happiness. Your advice is good advice, and I shall certainly take it.

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  4. I love this and it is so true. There is something about the past that can be like Velcro to us. Never the less we do need to explore its impact on us. I love the idea of learning the lesson cause its only then we feel truly free to move on and we have to forgive ourselves too.

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  5. Please allow me to go a little off track with this comment.

    You have a tremendous gift for writing. Let me encourage you to compose something new everyday. Write it in cursive. Maintain a pretty penmanship. Let me also encourage you to read as many different articles from other writers, as possible, so that you will learn from the thoughts of those of various backgrounds and talents. Be sure to include the classics of literature in your list of things to be read. In any work place, no one will be able to advance if they can not properly comprehend things that have been written, as directives or as any other form of composition. It is a must that people, neatly, put their thoughts on paper, in easily readable memos, as well as in any other higher forms of documentation. . I wish you well; please stay in touch. Learn the purpose of the semi-colon; “really!”

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    1. ♡ This is very good advice to The Self EveryOne; ergo when advising listen in because the advice you give is best for you

      …♡♡♡…

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      1. Nice to meet you too….. I like your blog…. I’ll be looking forward to your next post. 😊😊

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      1. No, actually google translate is the worst way of learning a language in my opinion… I have an app called ‘Duolingo’. That’s the better alternative.

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      2. Ohhhhhh… thank you… for letting me know…I will try that… yes sometime I find Google translate muddles everything and confuses further 😁

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      3. Bom dia..nome bonito. Vc é DE onde? Agradeço por estar conosco em nosso espaço e espero que estejas gostando…bjs de luz em seu coração..parabéns pelo seu espaço

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  6. An excellent message. Humans tend to either reside in past or keep imagining about future. However, the only controllable part of our life is the present.

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  7. Good afternoon lovely Saania, the past is something what we can’t delete from our memory, flash backs come without expecting and sometimes it may be very painful, we can’t control it, but yes as you said, we can learn from it and except what happened:)we can’t change the past, but we can try to be a better version of us each day:) i think if we live each day meaningfully the flash back lay come less often, if we live a busy life, ofc we sit on the sofa all day in front on the tv we have bigger chance to have flash back, very important post, thank you for visiting my blog and for your huge support, have a wonderful weekend❤️

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  8. Great post. 👌 I especially liked your analogy to the physical wound, to stop touching it or it won’t get better. At the same time, we’re not actually running away from the wound.
    Hope your posts reach everyone and helps them to evolve.

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  9. You are saying right.the past is only for lesson not to remember.beautifully written,my dear Saania!!🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

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  10. This is absolutely great, it’s amazing how you write,I like this:our happiness is our responsibility and not others…

    Our negative past is always determine to bring us down, make us uncontrollable and limit our horizon, it’s really our responsibility to fight back.

    On this Earth everyone needs to develop a fighting spirit,by spirit I mean inner drive,to fight and wrestle with everypast action that is targeted to bring us down.

    In my own humble opinion, wrestling is not meant for the WWE super stars alone, even though our may not be the physical but mental fight….for everyone who is willing to win in life must be ready for this fight.

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  11. ON MONEY AND MATERIALISM

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    Beggars ARE Selfish, Rich Folk ARE Selfish; so Spot The Difference EveryOne…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I Don’t Spend My Time on Rich Folk and I Don’t Support Beggars with Spending Money

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    …◇◇◇…

    ON LINEAR, CIRCULAR AND SPHERICAL TIME

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ So Past, Present, Future 🤔 ?
    ◇ Learning, Burning/Chilling, Yearning 🤔 ?
    ◇ Demanding, Wanting or Desiring, Hoping 🤔 ?

    …there is Disappointment and Resentment when We DEMAND AND WANT!!! EveryOne; there is Acceptance of Joy and Grief when We Desire and Hope so The 69 Million Reasons Question is just Where Do You Fit Into The Cosmic Joke 🤔 ?…

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    …◇◇◇…

    ON HEART AND HEAD

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    So, Boys and Girls of a Certain Bent (Pun Intended) Maybe Your Girl Dumps You because You Don’t Have Enough Moolah/Cash or, Even Worse, Defrauds You of Your Moolah/Cash that You Kindly Chose to Share with HER!!! this Applies to Boys as well as Girls; so, Girls, I Suggest Choose and Decide whether Money or Love is More IMPORTANT!!! because that Diamond Ring WILL!!! Eventuate Regardless…because The Love of Your Life WILL!!! Live with You in a Hut/Hovel until The Two of You, a Couple, TOGETHER!!! in The Total Abscence of Co-Dependency Get Your Mansion by Co-Operating then Assisting Other Couples of Any Sexual Orientation (Past, Current and Potential) to do The Same

    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    …◇◇◇…

    ON THE MEANING OF WORDS

    As a Writer I AM Often a Stickler for The Purity of The Word; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Many of Us ARE of The Belief that a Word Means The Same Thing as Another Word…here ARE Some Examples of Why This Word is Subtlety Different from That Word:

    ♤ Confusion means “I AM NOT THINKING!!!”
    ♤ Puzzlement means “I AM THINKING!!!”
    ♤ Emotion means “I AM GETTING AN INTERNAL RESPONSE FROM AN EXTERNAL OR AN INTERNAL STIMULUS!!!”
    ♤ Feeling means “I AM SENSING SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE!!!”
    ♤ Instruction means “I AM DISOBEYING AND THE INSTRUCTIONS MAY BE MODIFIED!!!”
    ♤ Orders mean “I AM DISOBEYING AND MAY GET A PARENTAL BEATING OR COURT-MARTIALLED!!!”
    ♤ Zero means The Start and The End, The Z-A, The Alpha and The Omega
    ♤ Nothing means The Void, The Emptiness waiting to be Filled by Zeroes just like Bank Account Balances
    ♤ Can means “I HAVE THE CAPACITY AND I AM CAPABLE!!!”
    ♤ Able means “I HAVE TRANSFORMED MY CAPACITY INTO ABILITY AND NOW I AM ABLE!!!”
    ♤ Mad means “I AM NOT THINKING!!!”
    ♤ Insane means “I AM THINKING!!!”

    …this is why We have Dictionaries EveryOne; it’s also Crystal Clear Clarity that I Suggest Use of a Dictionary when UnCertain of Meaning as there ARE Plenty of Dictionaries Online and Many Dictionaries in Print…

    …♤♤♤…

    ON RECOVERING FROM THE STIGMA OF MENTAL HEALTH ILLNESS AND BEING MENTALLY ILL

    ♡ I AM a Survivor of MMHI (Multiple Mental Health Issues) Brought On by My Conditioned Upbringing and Exacerbated by My Confused Choices and Decisions in Adulthood that made things MUCH WORSE!!! 😲 so having Puzzled My Way Through It because I Can and Recovered I AM now an Able Amateur Mental Health Advocate Sharing My Experiences 😎 ; the How of My Recovery is that I Changed The Way I Think, Speak and Behave so as to Stop Stigmatising MySelf, Sought Free Assistance and was Diagnosed, Treated and Stabilised as Having a Psychiatric Condition thus Gaining Access to a Range of Free and Subsidised Services to Support Sustaining My Stable State; what was also Very Important is I Ceased Victimisation of MySelf by Talking Less and Less and Less about My Psychiatric Condition…this didn’t happen OverNight or Even Over Years and Relapse Remains a Risk; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that I Simply Decided I Didn’t want to Grow Old and Angry, Grumpy or Sad then Die UnStable so I Made a Start by Setting My Intention to Mentally Recover However Long it Took Me by Going to Ground Zero with Absolutely Nothing and I Stuck at it…a Key Factor is I Surrounded MySelf with Brutal Friends who would Tell Me As It Is and Sycophantic Friends who would SugarCoat with Platitudes; a Perfect Balance of Friends…there’s BC (Before Conditioning) Approx 0-3 Years of Age, CS (Conditioned State) that Many Take To Their Grave and AC (After Conditioning) Mentally Recovered; so, as You Choose and Decide what State is Right for You EveryOne, I Wish You ALL Well on Your Journeys of Recovery InSanity (InSide Sanity) or Staying A Stick In The Mud of Madness and OutSanity (OutSide Sanity)

    …♡♡♡…

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