Feeling uncertain about the future and muddled up with the present…
I have quite often been there.
Worrying about what is going to happen next…
The prospect of not knowing if something good or bad will happen to me in the near future produces so much stress and discomfort.
Now the philosophical question comes, how to deal with it?
The number one thing that I have realised is that most of us worry ourselves with things that are most likely never going to happen, or basically that our worst fears will rarely ever come true. There are sure some situations that we think could adversely affect our lives, but usually even those aren’t life shattering. So we should ask ourselves what is the worst that could happen. Let’s take an example. Imagine that you are in a class of people. Look at the people around you and figure out what is the worst that’s happened to them. There will be things like this person got low marks in a test, or that person lost an important match. Generally speaking, there won’t be a person who has been kidnapped, or a person who has been diagnosed with a serious disease, or a person with a severe injury. For most of us, most of the time, life’s challenges are actually the small little things, which would hardly be relevant a decade from now. So after figuring all that out, drop the topic!
There would also be times where there is really nothing you can do about the future. I mean you can only do what you can today, and if there is nothing you can do about it, you are better off just going for a jog or taking a nap than worrying about things that are not even in your hands. There is actually a theory known as the circle of concern and the circle of influence. Letting go of things that are outside your circle of influence, and only focusing on things that you can control. For example, you can’t exactly control the traffic in Mumbai! But you can very well control your own behaviour and actions.
So for items you can control (things inside your circle of influence) , turn worries into work. For situations where you know for sure that you probably won’t achieve what you want to, there is no point in fearing about it. And I realised that working on it is the best antidote to worrying about it. Trying to make a better future by working on getting positive outcome for next time. This step takes a lot of courage to accept and do what you can, with what you have, and more importantly, believe you can face your fears to make a better future.
All that said, there will realistically be situations where your brain just refuses to be so logical and you feel that restlessness about what is going to happen. And that is where our dear old friend meditation comes in …
Meditation helps to stabilise us in the face of fear to help us understand it more clearly. With breathing and meditation, we can actually understand ourselves, our emotions and our fears, dig deeper into our thoughts and feelings.
So fear is a choice, you spend time worrying about it or you spend time understanding and getting over them…the choice is ours. 😊
– Saania Saxena
I loved this and it was just what I needed to read today, thank you!
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True..
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😊
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So lyrically and beautiful and holds so many truths – the philosophical side of your self comes shining through. Brilliant and profound Saania.
Love it and am in awe.
Peace ✌ always
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Very refreshing read.. You bring lot of psotivity in your writting which makes readers enjoy reading.. Keep Writing.. You are mastering this skill..:)
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Beautiful and loved the way you discussed the topic
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Thank-you so much! Please keep visiting 🙂
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For sure
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This is brilliant! Loved it💜
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Wow! Fear is a choice! Yes indeed. Keep thinking, keep writing.
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Agree ♥️
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Very well written Saania , keep up the good thinking process!
I love your thoughts on such deep topics and how simply you try to make your points clear .
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Agreed meditation is good. Fear and worry is eased once the spirit is awakened.
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Yes!
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Well, that is a very good system!
I’m impressed! 🙂
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Such a lovely flow of well placed word into a overstood statement…nice!!!
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Saania, a profound post. Great points! I’ve learned this as I got older. Worrying gets us no where. There is only the now. Fear is a construct of our mind. Once we go thru what we thought was a fearful act- we realized it wasn’t as bad as we thought it was. Believe me, I’ve been there. 😉🌟🙏.
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Indeed! 😊
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Awesome post nd its true we can’t controls others bt we can control our action nd behaviour
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True! Thanks for the comment 🙂
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Such a delight to read this. Really thoughtful
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So true very well written 👏👍keep going saanu God bless
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Well done .Another fantastic post .This is so true .Everyone is so scared about the future and doesn’t focus on today’s problems and rather try’s to prevent the things that is going to happen in the future if you understand what I mean . I hear so many times this quote about fear .Fear is fake evidence that appears real . Keep on going with such wonderful work I’m very proud of you . Lots of love ❤️🥰
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The vicious circle is so prominent and takes us done! Very true, wonderful post.
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Saania I read your post dear about future.Well written and you deserve all praise from every one who read it and ofyour brilliant mental attitude.
As far the issue raised well you have put the question and answer the same in almost the best possible manner.You are my pride.
Past lived its life and gave birth to present which is to become past with future knocking for its arrival.It is like night giving space for day.It has been coming and going in a cycle,we have no control.We must learn from past about error we made and make present fine and comfortable.Fear is for those who lack in dealing the present.Let future be free to take its course.Determination and courage of present will never allow a bad future.Believe in deeds not in fate.Your future is in your control. Meditation and control in actions are the key of bright future.Fear has no place in the life of a KARMYOGI.
My blessings.
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This is soo nice. Omg. Loved it.
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Your posts …… So thoughtful and motivating n teaching….
It’s beautiful way of presentation! 😊
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I feel so stressed some time its tooo much of workload but I am very happy to see u thinking n writhing beautifully now I am stress free …..God bless you
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Worrying or not worrying is just so synonymous to thinking a situation to be a problem or just other moment that l pass away…Great post reflecting wisdom and thoughtfulness…👍🏻
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The choice is yours! Thank you for the reminder, fantastic post. Keep it up!
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This is very true.. I too was trapped into all this but I made through and am helping others too.. Thanks for this post.. It is really helpful..
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Nicely written Saania…. this is something I try to practice – working on your circle of influence
Keep writing… you are very good at it
God bless!
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You have written. Very nicely really speaking futuredepends on present work so one should Give her 100 Percent to become perfect in present and think positive for future Saania Dadi baba is proud on you you are a good writer and your thoughts are super Your loving dadi Sudha
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This is so wonderfully composed Saania… you are so clear headed at this young age about such intricate feelings that I’m so proud to be teaching you… good going ! Eagerly awaiting ur next post 😘 love yah!
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The Circle is.. really helpful ❤
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Much needed post for me right now .
Yes ,meditation helps a lot to live in present😇
Thank you for writing this😀
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Very thoughtful reminder. We get carried away easily.
Thanks for writing this wonderful piece.
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And thank-you for visiting Abhishek! Glad you liked it 🙂
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My pleasure! 🙂
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I like your circles of influence and control…
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A most interesting post Saania.
may I say this?
The past is vague, and perhaps changed each time it is remembered.
The future, however planned, depends on circumstances beyond your control.
The present is the only period of ‘time’ useful for creation of a productive
future that will allow a memorable past.
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Of course you may! Thank-you so much for visiting and so glad you liked it! Very truly said 👏🏻
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Hey, very nicely written Saania, keep it up…❤️
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Nice blog
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This is a beautiful post!
🙏❤️
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Glad you enjoyed 🙂
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You have written truth, dear one. How we respond to situations and people around us is in our own control – an important lesson for all. I look forward to reading more. 🙂
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👍True and Well explained.
✨I really like the ‘Topics’ that you write on.☘️
😊Keep on writing 📝
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Hello Saania, I loved t.he idea of the circle, Very well presented 🙂
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A good one. Hope one learns this.
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Well said!
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The truth well presented.. 😇👌🏼
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well written, and you are wise my friend.
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Fantastic post, understanding can make miracles in life
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Lovely and informative post! Thanks for sharing and I’m glad you found my little corner of the world and thanks for following my blog. Welcome to the fence jumpers. @sheilamgood at Cow Pasture Chronicles
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You’re most welcome! Glad you found it helpful and thank-you for visiting!
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Such a thoughtful post! So true choice is ours..loved it!! 💖
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Beautiful expression of thoughts… Circle of concern definitely struck a chord.
Very good Saania, keep it up!
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This was absolutely brilliant.
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very well conceptualized and expressed, Loved it saania!
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Very well written.. Keep it up.. 👌👍
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Very good post and some good critical thinking. My faith powers me through most uncertainties and doubt. Gods will b done,good or bad. Just in my case of course, not preaching.
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